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BM emailed DH yesterday to update him on their summer travel plans. She said they aren't going to the Europe anymore, made no mention of going to Florida (which SS said they only wanted to do because we took SS there last month), etc. She said at this point, their only plans this summer are camping for 2 days in a bordering state. She mentioned that they may also go to Canada for a day trip (which she has been promising SS for 5 years and they've never been despite us living an hour from the border).
Has anyone reached the point in which you find that just about every little thing having to do with the SKIDS just instantly irritates you? Am I being that irrational? Especially over something as trivial as getting a phone call from SD29 to my MIL during our 4th of July gathering with her, DH and my parents who have gotten along famously with my inlaws.
We hadnt gotten together like this in months and finally got it organized. Damn well we deserve to enjoy ourselves for so much as ONE day ( which we did once she left us alone) without SD having to make something about her
that is MA's mantra of late. Cool...I can see his is trying to be different since his extra-curricular activies were discovered. What MA fails to realize..I am ALSO a different person. After finding his years and years long extra-curriculars changed me...along with therapy for complex PTSD.
MA does not like the new me all that much at times....I no longer sweep his crappy behavior under the rug. I won't light myself on fire to make him happy anymore and I no longer blindly trust him. Trust but verify buddy...that is where we are at.
I posted last month about my ambivalence about meeting with SD62:s daughters, C and M, and their kids as each had suggested. DH86 had recently had words with M after SD62's latest $ emergency. He had suggested SD62 call her kids rather than him and she had done so, showing up at her son's work and causing a scene. She is now banned from that site.
DH86 spoke calmly with M that day but afterwards, said he was done with her. So, when I told him i was meeting with her and the kids, he said he'd be asleep.
Its with a heavy heavy heart that I write this out. I can only ever write this out here.
***trigger warning pet loss***
This past weekend, our beloved fur baby started vomiting. He was lethargic, but still moving around normally (or so we thought).
Last night (July 2nd) he was bloated and wouldnt get up to greet us with his normal body wriggles and moaning/groaning "helllloooo".
I haven't been on here in quite a while because, thankfully, I've been free from step parent drama for 6 months and counting. I leaned on this community a lot through my dark times, so thought I owed everyone an update. DH currently has no contact with anyone in his family other than his mother, and he's very low contact with her (dinner out for her birthday and Mother's day). SD sold her house and moved to another city over a 4 hour drive from us. She didn't bother to tell DH she was moving, and no one else in the family thought to tell him either.
Greetings fellow Steptalkers!
I just thought I would check in to say howdy to the new folks and give an update for the "regulars", 
This week so far has been really really nice. The weather has been perfect - hovering around mid 70's-low 80's with fresh breezes coming in even 30 miles away from the ocean. Havent had any beach days since last Sunday, but Im planning on at least 2 this week.
Now BM is adding to the disrespect issue. I have not been filled on everything but she text SO to tell him he has to take SS to this pool party. She then started on him saying he is a bad dad and that the kids can't stand him . She said the last time SD watched the pets we left no food for her to eat. We always , always specifically ask her what she wants and I got the things the night before we left since I had to go to store anyway. She doesn't even eat what we buy. The time before she ate one tiny bowl of salad, and I mean tiny. And she is paid for watching the pets.
I am not here much anymore. I still read and maybe comment on other things. Here I am again asking is it just me?
Background 15 yo old son is my DH bio and I adopted when he was 10 after we married. Technically not a stepmom anymore but I am certainly treated like one by my in-laws. We have another son 3yo I am also 26 weeks pregrnant with what will be our 4th child. We lost our little gilr when I was 37 weeks a hear and half ago. If you want more read past blogs.
If you have followed my story, you know that DH and BM lived within 100 miles of each other for 5 years. DH saw SS every Sunday and would attend doctor appointments and school functions throughout the week as able, driving the hour and a half each way to attend. BM had a nasty trick of telling DH about appointments and events day of, expecting him to drop everything to attend, and making him out to be a deadbeat if he couldn't. DH could rarely attend due to the short notice and BM reminds him of his "voluntary absenteeism" often.
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