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We Received BM's Travel Letter

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BM's notarized and signed travel consent letter arrived in the mail today. DH and I held our breaths as we opened it... It is literally the exact same letter DH sent BM, aside from her rewording a few phrases like "consent" instead of "authorize" and spelling out SS's birthdate instead of xx/xx/xxxx format we put. She also shifted the signature spot from the right side of the paper to the left.

BM is pissed

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DH and I booked a cruise for SS12's spring break next year. Since we know how BM operates, we booked a cruise that fell smack dab in the middle of SS' spring break, with two days on either side as a buffer for travel. BM knew months ago that we were considering this. 

Because we are traveling internationally with SS and DH does not have legal custody and/or share the same last name as SS, the cruise line advised us to have a consent form from BM so there aren't any issues with international border control. It isn't a requirement, but more of a precaution for ease of travel.  

SS12 Got A Cell Phone

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SS12 told us he was getting a cell phone at Christmas, but during our call tonight, he told us he got one on Labor Day after leaving our house. Surprised he didn't mention anything for almost a week despite us calling last week. He happily took down our phone numbers, adding them to his contacts, and sending a text to both DH and I. 

I asked what happened to the GPS tracking smartwatch. He said they turned it in when they bought the phone. Thank God, although I'm sure BM and GF will have a tracking app on the phone so it will likely make no difference. 

SS12 Isn't Even Here Yet and It's Already Started - VENT

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If you remember my last few blog posts, DH has SS12 for Labor Day Weekend this year. BM and DH communicated about it a few weeks ago and BM made it clear that even though the court order says 3 p.m. pick-up at her house, she was sending SS12 to football practice from 2 p.m. to 3 p.m. since it was "her time." She told DH he was welcome to pick SS up at the football field at 3 p.m. (pulling him out early which was severely frowned upon and would devastate SS) or allow SS to complete the entire practice, picking him up at 4 p.m. DH played the game and agreed to pick up at 4 p.m.

We Talked to SS12 Tonight

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We talked to SS12 tonight for our regular twice weekly FaceTime. He was sort of quiet, like normal. DH told SS last week that he would be arriving early for Labor Day weekend pick-up to watch SS practice, bringing snacks and drinks for the team to enjoy after practice. Tonight, SS nervously asked DH to not bring snacks and drinks.

She is Such A PITA

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It's that time of year again, where we are making plans and trying to sort out the remainder of our 2024 - trips, visits with family, etc. With that being said, DH emailed BM to confirm dates/times for remaining 2024 parenting times, to ensure everything lined up with school and sports, and so she doesn't claim a change at the last minute. We are scheduled to have SS for Labor Day weekend this year (first one ever due to sports). Based on the CO, DH is supposed to pick SS up at 3:00 p.m. that Friday, so we based everything around that.

I Should Have Bet Money

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BM emailed DH yesterday to update him on their summer travel plans. She said they aren't going to the Europe anymore, made no mention of going to Florida (which SS said they only wanted to do because we took SS there last month), etc. She said at this point, their only plans this summer are camping for 2 days in a bordering state. She mentioned that they may also go to Canada for a day trip (which she has been promising SS for 5 years and they've never been despite us living an hour from the border).

Are We Wrong?

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If you have followed my story, you know that DH and BM lived within 100 miles of each other for 5 years. DH saw SS every Sunday and would attend doctor appointments and school functions throughout the week as able, driving the hour and a half each way to attend. BM had a nasty trick of telling DH about appointments and events day of, expecting him to drop everything to attend, and making him out to be a deadbeat if he couldn't. DH could rarely attend due to the short notice and BM reminds him of his "voluntary absenteeism" often.

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