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Over BM's Bullshit (VENT)

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 03/31/2023 - 8:33pm

After BM emailed DH the other night, giving us dates for the first two week block of summer visitation, she emails tonight to let us know that SS11 has a football camp at the end of June, which would be smackdab in the middle of DH's second two week block of visitation. She says "I hope you will take it into consideration." Like we have a f***ing choice because our CO gives BM full authority to dictate our summer visitation due to sports. Our CO grants DH two two week blocks (with BM getting two weeks in the middle), but those blocks can be broken up to accommodate sports.

SS11 Update

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 03/28/2023 - 6:58pm

SS11 is scheduled to visit for 8 days for spring break starting this weekend. It will be two months since our last visit with him. Curious to see how this upcoming visit goes.

CS Review Update

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 02/28/2023 - 1:02pm

About a month ago, we received the recommendation for our CS review. DH's support obligation went down by $125 after discovering that BM is making almost double what DH makes, plus DD was a factor and BM no longer utilizes childcare for SS10. BM had 21 days to appeal that recommendation, which would have been last week.

SS10 Visit Over

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 02/20/2023 - 2:33pm

Our long weekend visit with SS10 ended today. Overall, it was a pleasant visit, but he didn't engage much. He had his head buried in video games for most of the visit. The only time he really spoke was meal times or after we took the video games away, and even then, all he wanted to talk about was BM, GF, and/or the trips they all have planned. SS10 wasn't rude in any way, just quiet. He did play with DD while DH and I did chores or worked, which was nice to see. He does seem to like DD.

Classic PAS Tactic

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 02/17/2023 - 8:12pm

So DH completed the 8 hour roundtrip drive today to pick up SS10 for President's Weekend. It is also DH's birthday, so we went out to dinner to celebrate. Once at dinner, SS goes "oh yeah, I forgot to tell you. BM and GF told me that they are taking me to the UK next summer." DH asks "Where in the UK are you going? When are you going?" SS responds, "I'm not sure where, just everywhere, and we don't know when yet, just sometime next summer." DH asks, "When did you find this out?" SS responds, "On Wednesday." Of course you did.

I Swear, BM is an Idiot

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 02/14/2023 - 9:00pm

So a few weeks ago, DH messaged BM asking if we could pick SS up for President's Weekend visitation at noon instead of 3pm on Friday and then change BM's pickup time to noon instead of 3pm on Monday, because we were going to FIL's house for the weekend and the later pick up time would make the extra distance harder. BM agreed to the change in time also informing DH that she would be in FIL's town (also BM's parent's town) that Monday and pulling SS out of school to stay there until Thursday.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO US!

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 02/02/2023 - 1:56pm

So today is DD's first birthday. DH and I have no idea where the time went. We had plans today to take her to Build-A-Bear before heading to visit family. DH checks his email and receives his daily "USPS informed delivery" email which outlines all the mail that will be delivered to us each day. Today's showed the dreaded CS order that we have been waiting 3 months for. All I could think was "Of all the days to arrive, it had to be on DD's birthday."

Still Annoying

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 01/20/2023 - 11:58am

We are scheduled to have SS for President's Day weekend in February. Our CO enforces that DH pick SS up in BM's state at 3pm on Friday and BM will pick up SS from us at 3pm on Monday. The 3pm pick up allows SS to attend school on Friday. 

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