So SS is with us for the long weekend. We see SS 6 weeks per year on a long distance schedule. BM called DH right before pickup on Friday, telling him that she was going to be cutting visitation 3 hours short due to the possibility of a snow storm. DH told BM it was unreasonable to make this decision 3 days in advance since weather can change. DH told her that he would evaluate the weather and let her know today if he supported the early pick up or not. 

So we see SS for 6 weeks on a long distance schedule. It is broken into two three day weekends, two two week periods in the summer and alternating school holiday breaks. HCBM lives 4 hours away across state lines. 

I am not new to steplife. I have been with DH for 8 years, married for 2 years. SS was 10 months old when DH and I met. BM is classic NPD. See my previous post for more back story. I have witnessed BM's verbal and emotional abuse, complete disregard for boundaries, and use of false allegations, lies and antics as a means to win first hand. I have watched her use SS as a pawn in her sick games and I have watched SS suffer in the process. I cannot fathom anyone wanting control so badly that they are willing to hurt their child in the process, weaponizing them against their parent.