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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 05/24/2021 - 6:30pm

So DH is picking SS up this Saturday for our first two week block of summer visitation. If you recall, BM flipped a lid a few weeks back about DH exercising two two week blocks because of SS' football obligations. We finally got everything sorted so SS will be here for two weeks starting Memorial weekend and two weeks at the end of June/first week of July, but it wasn't without a fight. 

Knew This Would Happen Pt. 2

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 05/10/2021 - 9:47pm

I posted a blog last weekend about a fight we had with BM. BM is trying to withhold and interfere with summer visitation with SS9. 

DH received an email tonight from SS' football league that SS' tryout is next week, which is well before DH's parenting time which means that DH will have SS for two two week blocks as originally scheduled with no interference from BM. 

DH emailed BM to beat her to the punch and allow him to confirm the schedule without allowing room for manipulation or changes. BM agreed but... 

Knew This Would Happen

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 05/08/2021 - 8:41pm

We live 4 hours and in a different state from BM and function on a long distance schedule. We see SS 6 weeks per year. So DH received an email today from SS9's football league stating that they would be holding a single day tryout in the coming weeks (date TBA). Well of course this would screw us over because our CO states that DH while DH has set dates for summer visitation, DH will move his summer parenting time schedule around to accommodate SS' sports, but that DH will still maintain the two two week blocks in their entirety (i.e. BM cannot split up the dates).

Feeling Bad for SS9

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 04/22/2021 - 5:26pm

BM emailed DH tonight to let him know that SS9 will be switching elementary schools next year. She said that when her and GF bought their house it was outside of his current school's jurisdiction so SS was assigned to the new elementary school. His current school allowed him to stay there finish out the school year. 

Spring Break is Over

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sun, 04/04/2021 - 3:17pm

BM's brother came to pick up SS9 today to conclude spring break visitation. We had a really great time and SS shed some light on many alienation tactics from BM. SS left his perfume covered stuffed animal in his closet for the entire visit. When I packed it up with his stuff, he said "I didn't even need it. I dont sleep with stuffed animals at home. BM just makes me take it to your house." I asked SS if he wanted to take home a souvenir model car we got him while visiting a museum this week, and he said no, that if he brings anything to BM's home from our house, BM just throws it out.

BM Likes to Complicate

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Wed, 03/31/2021 - 8:38pm

I apologize in advance if this is complicated to explain. Try to bare with me... So BM lives in a neighboring state 4 hours directly south of us. DH and I live on the Eastside of our state, while BM's family and hometown are on the Westside of our state. If BM wants to visit her family, it is a 6.5 hour drive from her home and a 2.5 hour drive from our home.

Perfume Stuffed Animal Update

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 03/29/2021 - 4:12pm

We have had SS9 since Saturday afternoon. As mentioned in my previous blog, BM has been sending SS with a perfume covered stuffed animal for the past 3 visits. So SS arrived with the stuffed animal, but it's not really a stuffed animal. It's a toy with a plastic head and limbs and a cloth torso so it is impossible to wash. Hint hint: the toy is a little green baby who was very popular after last year's Lucasfilm series aired on Disney+. The scent is on the toy's outfit, which cannot be removed. The scent is rather strong. 

SS Spring Break

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 03/27/2021 - 12:14pm

DH is picking up SS9 for spring break today. He will be with us until Easter Sunday. If I am being honest, I'm nervous about the visit because we never know which SS we are going to get; the "comfortable happy one", the "argumentative cocky" one, or the "scared, crying, I miss my Mom/GF" one. 

Another Slap in the Face

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sun, 03/21/2021 - 7:33pm

I'm feeling bad for DH tonight. DH talked to SS9 tonight for one of their twice a week Skype calls. While they were talking, I heard SS tell DH "My parents..." referring to BM and BM's girlfriend. He later went on to say, "My Moms..." It just rolled off his tongue without a second thought. I watched DH's face immediately sink and he got really quiet. SS didn't notice the change in DH's tone or demeanor.

Skids and Loss

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 03/16/2021 - 11:52am

DH and I have to rehome our cat. We moved into a much smaller apartment when we relocated a few months back and she is not handling it well. She is understimulated no matter what toys or attention we provide. We have a dog but they ignore each other. We cannot get anymore pets since we are renting an apartment and our lease only permits 2 pets. It has come to a point where she is plucking out her own fur, which the vet said is stress and boredom.

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