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Always about himself

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Submitted by EveryoneLies on Thu, 03/20/2025 - 10:39am

Last night when DH and I were discussing our weekend plan (also the weekend before DH's bday), SS interrupted asking when will we leave and when will we be back. DH looked at ss comfused becase SS is not part of the plan. Turned out SS just want to make sure no matter where and when we go, we need to be back on time to take him to the event he wants go to.

Mind you, we haven't even finished planning, we didn't even decide which day of the weekend we will go. 

It’s been awhile…

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Submitted by Stepgram on Thu, 03/20/2025 - 8:31am

I've been dealing with some health issues so it's been a while since I have last posted.  SD's latest request made my jaw drop.  She wanted to move in our home with her husband and son so that they could save money to keep on travelling.  This woman is 37 years old and expects we would provide shelter and food for them. DH flat out told her no and that they needed to work it out themselves. Needless to say they have not gone on any trips recently and we don't see them too often. 

Flunking and lazy parenting = good times

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Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 03/19/2025 - 1:00pm

It's official. SS14 flunked math for the third quarter. The teacher texted DH a couple of weeks ago to warn him and encourage him to get SS to turn in missing assignments. That prompted DH to reach out to other teachers to ask if there was missing work, etc. Surprise, surprise, there was a long list. DH sat SS down and made him go down the list to do all of it.

Thay helped with some grades. Not with math, because SS told DH he submitted the five assignments -- which he did, but three were blank and two he only did part of it, getting 5/50 in all.

Random text from SD14

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Submitted by Dogmom1321 on Wed, 03/19/2025 - 9:47am

I have been totally disengaged from SD14 for several years now. Not even a simple greeting or eye contact when she is physically present. Shno longer asks for rides, buying things, etc. 

SD14 sends me a text out of the blue yesterday. "I left a trash bag on the porch. I'll get it when I come back." 

I still had her contact saved in my phone. The last text I saw was 2022. 3 years ago! No happy birthdays, Merry Christmases or anything inbetween. But she randomly texts me about a trash bag???

Update on DH

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Submitted by MorningMia on Wed, 03/19/2025 - 6:23am

I posted a little while back about DH, concerns about possible early signs of dementia or ADD, etc. He saw a doctor and was quickly diagnosed with ADD and OCD (the OCD dx surprised me). It was easier for DH to mention ADD to the dr rather than express concerns about dementia, so I don't think that ever came up. It's still a concern. At least he's open to looking at what's going on and doing something about it.  

Question to those who have walked away

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Submitted by Kellymarie1506 on Wed, 03/19/2025 - 6:16am

I cannot do this anymore, the frustration, the resentment, trying to force myself to be okay in a blended family when it goes against everything inside me. I'm not cut out to be in a blended family especially when it's someone being in the house full time with a non existent BM but regardless it's my own problem and my own fault, I continued with something and tried to move forward with it and I've had to lay in the own bed I've made.

You Exist to Serve Us

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Submitted by ImperfectlyPerfect on Tue, 03/18/2025 - 12:04pm

I’ve really pulled back and disengaged, but some things still get under my skin. One of them is the obligatory “Happy Holidays” or “Happy Birthday” messages. Of course, I don’t have to send them, but guilt creeps in. And if I don’t, you know there will be backlash. It’s happened before in my decade-plus of being a stepmom—the punishment didn’t fit the crime.

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