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This is nothing big , just have to vent. SO has a company vehicle and a car that is really old. I have a nice car. He drives the company vehicle around town in the daylight but doesn't like to drive it at night. I have issues with how SO is used by BM and SS and I don't need to go over all of that. It has been quite awhile now that I have told SO that I don't want him driving my vehicle to run SS around wherever BM says too. My boundary even if it sounds petty. He keeps trying to use my car and I have to keep saying like I will move mine so you can use yours, I don't have enough gas, etc.
I am running out of patience and forgiveness when it comes to SD20 consistently disrespecting me in my home. I am very much a non confrontational person and my caring and forgiving nature sadly has being taken advantage of too many times. I don't know how to break the cycle anymore.
In the 6 years I've been sharing a home with SO and his 2 kids now SS14 and SD20, none of them ever initiate a conversation with me or just a greeting. SS at least doesn't play any power game and replies when being talked to.
Ok so I'm a bit taken aback. I didn't think SD10 could actually morph into Toxic BM but here we are. FYI I am 35 weeks pregnant too so baby is almost here. Is it coicendence BM amps the drama now? Nope! Of course not! She has done this every time I'm about to give birth.
Fell in love with a single dad of a 3yr boy things were great at first. The child was sweet and well behaved unfortunately that is no longer. He gets very aggressive with me when I give him simple instructions I get argued with and yelled at. I have old dogs he likes to throw toys at and stand on. My dogs are very tolerant all they do is get up and move away from him. He follows them and starts again. My dogs are my life 15yrs of companionship from my old girls. My dogs welbeing comes first and always will. Child is constantly being spoken to about this behavior and nothing sinks in.
When you have a crazy BM who has poured her poisonous crazy goo all over her kids, can you ever 100% free yourself of the toxic fumes?
SD has apparently been whining to DH about driving 8-9 hours to watch 4 yo OGS play baseball next month. I normally don't give a crap about DH visiting; he doesn't go that often. But SD has 4 kids in her house, three under the age of 5, and she is anti-vax. And there's the measles outbreak in TX (apparently has spread to NM now). (SD is not in either state.)
This was a loooooonnnnng week with SS14. We had winter weather that closed schools from Tuesday afternoon onward, which meant he was here in the house nonstop for days. (Hopefully DH can find something to send him to do this summer.)
He continues to sneak food up to his room, then lie about it. It's particularly annoying because if he'd just ask to have a snack, the answer would be yes. And if he'd obey the rules and show some responsibility, we would let him have food up there.
Believe them the first time. Almost 4 months SS20 has been living with us. He did eventually get a seasonal position at a retail store, but after 3 weeks, they stopped giving him shifts. This was December, so he had been living with us for about a month before he was able to get that position. DH was also given a great contract, so he's been working, and it's been a help, but it also feels like because he's working, he's not making it a priority on a daily basis to see what SS is up to.
Rumplestiltskin called it what it is: Sister Wives.
Unfortunately, I know this well, because that is the situation the BM here wanted, all under the pretense of "what's best for the kids." When we put a stop to the nonsense, I was the one to be forever blamed for destroying "what's best for the kids." <EYEROLL>
The wanna-be sister wife warnings (feel free to add your own; it might save someone):
BM's and SO's post-divorce enmeshment
And I don’t mean stepkid boundaries, I mean DHs ex!!!
DH and ex were together 12 years, never married, a wedding kept getting called off because of ex cheating. They split when SD8 was around 2yo.
There are no normal boundaries between them. It’s driving me up the wall. Especially now we have baby son and I don’t want him involved in all the codependent weirdness. There definitely isn’t anything *going on* between them but it’s just not right.
So quick recap: SS18 is in college across the country- he has a gf in our state who is a Jr in HS, and they are obsessed with each other. They have had sex, her parents are religious and don't know. This wknd SD15 (temporarily retiring her Demon nickname as she has been consistently normal and decent for a few months now) told us that SS's gf's parents love SS because he told them they are waiting until marriage to have sex. So, he straight up lied to their faces when they talked to him about sex, because they were worried that SS and their daughter were having sex in their house.
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