I'm sorry but I just want to scream this ! Every freaking year, every holiday BM has to find a way to bug and or start drama ! That is about the only thing she is consistent on. This year since I guess SD is not getting anywhere on her texting DH wanting to be picked up tomorrow, enter BM. She started sending DH SD15 Christmas list unprovoked. SD had already sent DH her list weeks ago. Normally I have finally gotten to the point where I am not affected by BM or SD but DH is constantly complaining and I ask him what is going on? And he is like it's this damn list !

Yea low I got use to BM dropping SD 15 on anyone she could every single holiday . For weeks at a time and dodging spending time with her child for thanksgiving or Christmas. It was always the excuse " well I'm not doing anything so she would have more fun with you guys" well now that SD 15 is old enough to voice her thoughts turns out that NO she would rather not spend the whole holiday with us and I was shocked ( well not really) that SD only come around on Christmas Eve for about 3 hours to collect her gifts and go.

Now in the past I would have probably would not have cared of SD was coming on her weekend with DH . But since all the drama we went through and her not coming for months and months at a time , DH is finally pushing for stability ( he should have been pushing for his weekend all along ) he has a serious talk with SD14 and told her if it's his weekend she needs to be with him period . SD14 expressed that she has been wanting to come and see her siblings . Her last visit went so well and I thought we were moving forward to becoming more close . I actually enjoyed her company .

Hello all! It's been a while but all has been well over here! Therapy with DH and myself is going really good! Things with SD 14 has improved but she has not really been over since after Easter. One weekend she was sick and the next time she had a sports ball to attend but things have been good with SD and BM has been quiet. Except for today. SD was just over for her weekend and she has become enjoyable to be around, she plays well with her siblings now and starts conversations with me to my surprise! But of course BM has to text DH if he is gonna help her pay for an urgent care bill.