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Curious how many have dealt with 7 year olds that cry when leaving mommy. It's not always. My SD recently turned 7 and she and bio mom have a very codependent relationship. It certainly feeds bio mom's narcissistic ego to have her baby girl need her and want her and cry for her. She is spoiled by mom in every way. They sleep in the same bed. My SD has learned to people please to mom.
Ok so imma try and make this as short as possible but with as much detail as I can. I been with my husband for 15 years this November, it has been a very long ride. When I met him he was honest about everything. He had one biological son age 3 and I had one son age 9 months. We talked on the phone a couple months before meeting in person right after my sons 1st bday. He lived a hour away, he also had a daughter that wasn't biological his (took a dna) but she doesn't know the truth. And his ex was pregnant with a kid that was either his or another guy.
This is just my experience....
But I've noticed that some men seem to think they own your time.
One of the things I disliked most about living with men is how they think you're supposed to be at their beck and call 24/7.
Dudes be like ..... "Oh you Just got off work? Ok now it's time for you to go take care of kids, run my errands, clean up after me and these kids, listen to me b*tch n moan (aka be my free therapist), participate in my delusions, etc"
Honestly feel like this is the only safe place I can confidently and confidentially vent out my woes as a stepmom. I've tried multiple resources like my therapist, in-laws, other stepparent support groups- and it seems like nothing is really helping like I'd hoped and I end up feeling judged and unheard for the most part.
My SD just turned 7. We have her 50% of the time. Where we live is to be closer to her so school/schedule etc and mostly dealing with psychotic biomom is made simpler. Bio mom is SD's bestie. They sleep together and do everything together and this child is spoiled spoiled spoiled to the core. Their relationship is not mother daughter. It is the codependent dynamic duo.
That was a long one. And I love road trips.
I left on Wed July 31st the day after our 30th anniversary. I drove from LV NV to Tucumcari NM the first day. N Az and N NM are my absolute favorite region on the planet. Stunning beauty. But... the way back I found a rival region that comes pretty close.
SS18 will be gone 1 week as of tomorrow, and here's how it's going so far:
-We have discovered a trove of lies he has told. How he "didn't go to his ex gf's house" the night before he left, immediately after dropping off his current gf, even though the ins app clearly shows her house as the end point.
In an earlier blog, I wrote about my beloved Dad having recently died. He has an adopted daughter, now 64 years old, and two nieces. After Dad divorced his ex-wife, his daughter (who had been difficult since early childhood, made worse by her mother’s PAS), blamed Dad for everything wrong in her life. Her only contact with him was when she wanted money or help paying her bills. She was unable to keep a steady job due to entitlement and poor time-keeping.
Feeling so grateful and FREE because earlier this month, I moved. Two states away. Therefore:
Silly vent needed.
So now 2 years have gone by since SS20 #1 and SS20 #2 twins graduated high school. SS20-1 is in College - as any normal young person.
SS20-2... well that's a story that I will explain in a list, that might not even be complete:
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