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Puberty Sucks
SS11 woke up in a FOUL mood this morning and has been whinging and crying over silly little things all day.
SS9 was the same about a week ago.
I took Intro to Child Development a few semesters ago and I think I read that puberty starts as early as 8 years. I found it hard to believe but after experiencing these emotional roller coasters for the past few weeks, I am starting to believe it.
Ugh. Can I slow puberty down or something???
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Guess I Was Wrong?
Guess I spoke too soon about developing peace ...
DH acted a little "off" last night about some texts he got from BM about the boys not calling her. I asked him if he wanted to talk about it and he snapped "No." I said "Don't be rude or transfer whatever she said to you to me because that's just not right." He apologized and showed me the text.
I feel sick. BUT kind of feel that pity for BM again ...
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I Am Developing Peace ... FInally.
I am not sure at what point in these past few months I came to this resolution but somehow I have finally gone from anger and hatred to pity and sorrow for BM. Perhaps this is because it is exhausting and stupid to stay angry forever?
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Shocked and Stunned
So I am pretty sure everyone has heard about Zara Baker, the missing little girl on the East Coast? Her stepmother has not been named a suspect but the media such as Nancy Grace has already tried, judged and convicted her. Don't get me wrong, the SM is definitely looney tunes - at a minimum, she is a pathological liar. Zara had a prosthetic leg and hearing aids. She also suffered from bone cancer. She lived with her father full time. Evidently, there are reports that the SM was abusive. I am looking for a link to the story if you haven't heard the story.
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I Think This Lack of Contact is BM's Form of a Tantrum
Okay so the custody battle is no longer a battle for DH. He hasn't won but BM made it clear that she can't afford, nor does she want to, fight over something that really wasn't going to change much.
However, DH hasn't forgotten nor forgiven because he is still asking for child support. I don't know how I feel about it ... we can afford to take care of them on our own and she really doesn't have the money to pay CS but he gets like this - vindictive. So I think this is a battle I shall choose carefully if I choose it at all.
Things Have Been Going Well ... For the Most Part
So it has been about a month since I have had to blog. Which is a sign of progress I think.
THAT and DH took a massive step forward in the custody case. The judge has supported him quite a bit which is surprising because ... well ... he is the father.
Today I am blogging because I found out MY Stepmother is on Steptalk. I find this bizarre because I do not talk to her nor my father. So what is she blogging about? My brother. My brother lives near her and my father and my sister lives in another country. I live in another state.
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Camping trip
This weekend we are going camping.
I am totally excited about it because well, I love the natural environment, the kids are a blast and DH mellows out. Plus our dogs get really goofy.
I also love to eat Smores without the chocolate and the graham cracker 
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It's Easier to Fix a Car than SS9
For every time I think I might rise above and forgive BM for what she did to SS9, something happens that I just can't.
This morning I held SS9 on my lap as he woke up - a ritual we have had every morning since he was 6 - and today he looked in my eyes and said "Please don't ever leave me." It broke my heart. Even now, on my lunch break I am hurting.
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Step Parent vs. Bio Parent Thing
I have to wonder if this is part of normal parenting or if I am feeling this way because I am the "Step" parent.
Friday, SS11 was a wonderful child and I couldn't ask for more harmony in the home, but today is Sunday and I can't stand his attitude, mannerisms or snide remarks. Today he got hot sauce in his mouth for telling DH "no way I will do it how I want to!" ... from a normally well mannered child this was shocking.
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SS9 Has Broken Me To Pieces
It could be hormones because even though I am on Prozac, I get super sensitive at thistime of the month or it could be I am genuinely hurt.
SS9 has been "emotionally distant" since he got back last week.
He doesn't hug me. Doesn't tell me he loves me. Doesn't make eye contact.
I refuse to push him on this subject.
Before he went away this summer, he was sweet, affectionate etc.
And he is fine with DH.
He is laughing and giggling at everything like usual.
He has also questioned every single thing I tell him or do for him.
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