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Blended Family Conflict Sources in this Link

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I am taking a Sociology Course about Families in Transition. My research paper is about Step Parents. Sadly, ST is not a valid website for material but it is definitely good for examples of problem situations.
At any rate, I found out that there are at least 5 problems that BM and I have and I am committed to fixing them so as to avoid the mere grief that send me to this site to vent.

http://www.stepfamilymagazine.com/2008/06/25/blended-family-problems-21-...

Living on Love and Coconuts

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DH and I took a week long vacation to a tropical paradise. It was fabulous!
Besides "reconnecting", we did miss the kids but not enough to let it get us down. We snorkeled, scuba dove, hiked, and ate lots of bizarre food. I have to say, I am a bit disappointed in the Cold Coconut. I don't know why but I thought it would be yummy.
I have spoken to the boys twice since they left last month. They never have their phones on them and BM has been dropping hints to SS9 that we don't want him around which is SO untrue.

My Professor Was Right

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My professor was right. I have learned from "Stepmom". I found myself envious of Susan Sarandon and Julia Roberts. I know it is just a movie and probably unlikely, but I also know, having read Steptalk blogs etc, that it IS possible for BM and I to be civil and not vicious.

Don't get me wrong, around the children (as far as I know), we are civil and don't bad mouth each other. In our own worlds (like I am doing here), we spew venomous snotty comments about each other.

Nightmares All Night ... Feel Like a Child

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I watched "Stepmom" before I went to bed to catch up on that homework assignment. I had to watch the damn thing twice so I could analyze it properly. Bottom line: good plot but REALLY cheesy script. I try to forgive it by saying it was a 90's movie but Schindler's List came out in the 90's and it is phenomenal.
So anyway, I had nightmares all night because of this movie (I think ...).

"Stepmom" with Susan Sarandon and Julia Roberts?

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I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS. I am 31 years old and I am throwing an internal temper tantrum that would make SS9 proud.

I have to watch and analyze the movie "Stepmom" for my Sociology class. The class is Theory of Family and I love the course but GEEZ! I begged the professor to let me do anything else and he said "No, this is one of those times where you will learn more than you expected."

Prozac or Baby Maker

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So it's Prozac or have my own child. I went to the doctor today for a routine female exam and she asked me how the depression was coming along (Its hormonal ... Yaz helped that A LOT but then I had nasty side effects) and I said I run and work out every day but I just get so overwhelmed by my own negative thought patterns and once I start in a downward spiral it is hard to pick the nose of the plane up.
She said that she truly thinks it is hormones but she put me on Prozac because its one of my last options.
I can't have a child so it's really my only option.

Can't Take This

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The boys have been gone for one week. It is just me, the two dogs and the two cats at home. Even DH is gone. I have been trying to enjoy it all and not wallow in self-pity but somewhere I lost my identity with my family and can't seem to get out of this depression.
The boys haven't called. I called them to make sure all was well on their trip. I know they are boys but I am JUST A STEPMOTHER. Why in the hell would they call ME? And I am sure BM isn't helping.
It is this ripping-out-of-my-heart each summer that breaks me down and makes me want to quit.

He Didn't Eat My Homework, but He Did Help Himself to My Underwear

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Today I had to take the dog to the vet - its my punishment for not picking up my clothes off the floor (a recent development).
I have been living like a lazy bum and I left my clothes in the bathroom ... my Lab took my undies and ingested them. I only know this because I saw half of them in his stool this morning. Needless to say, he was constipated as he couldn't pass the rest of them ... I don't have large undies!
At any rate, 2 enemas, x rays and $200 later, he is fine.
What does this have to do with Steptalk?

Sneaky B****h

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BM has the skids with her right now. She flew here on Monday and I have blogged about it but I was nervous she brought BF. She never does. I knew she was up to something. I had this flip flop feeling for three months and couldn't figure out why.

She brought BF so she could have him "serve" DH at his own lawyer's office. BF is a process server.

Don't Belong?

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Why do I feel like I don't belong when the ex-wife/BM is around?
I know my husband is MY husband and he is not like some DH's on this site who stick up for the ex because of the kids. He truly is loyal.
The poor man has been tested though - admittedly I have tested him to see if, even though I am way wrong, he sticks by me, and he has. I love this man and his character.
But last night, we had to bring SS9's meds to him and BM before they flew out this morning.
I felt like I didn't belong ... like I had intruded on some serious bonding. DH was with me too!

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