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Cake of Negativity

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 8:42pm

I work with this new guy and he complains about everything.
I can't complain about him ... ha ... because I am a bit of a whiner. HOWEVER, I try to complain and present solutions. He just gripes.

I get home from work and DH is whining about the boys being terribly annoying with their "pechew pechew" (laser gun noises) and their constant punching each other. Oh it can get on anyone's nerves I think ...

And BM called. No complaining from her, but she is the icing on the Cake of Negativity.

Seasons Are a Changing ...

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sun, 04/11/2010 - 6:52pm

Living in the desert means super hot summers - okay that one is obvious - dry, chafing, crack your skin winters and also early spring and late fall seasons. We have our own beauty here ... yeah, yeah, green trees and leaves are nice but I love the deep, red sunsets and how the mountains cut through our city into the dusk skyline. I love how there isn't a breath or life but then you see a red yucca or a cactus with a HUGE red flower on it to brighten up the barren landscape.

Venting About Skids is Progress RIght? Instead of BM?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sat, 04/10/2010 - 6:02pm

I find myself venting more and more about skids than BM. This should be a good thing right?

I am getting more easily annoyed with SS11 lately and wonder if it is his age, the fact that he is not my child and I don't have a bond with him, or perhaps it is the season changing?

Game Night

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Fri, 04/09/2010 - 11:06pm

Tonight we did "game night" (Fridays) to which SS11 always asks to play video games even as a family - it almost always ends with NO but he is hopeful. SS9 likes the family interactions which is sweet.

So we did the Monopoly thing tonight and it went pretty well although SS9 thought the point was to end with the most money in hand not property so he saved thousands of dollars and paid rent all the time. SS11 bought LOADS of houses in the slums and almost went bankrupt.

Is "Manipulative" a Professional Diagnosis?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Fri, 04/09/2010 - 12:24pm

SS11 went to therapy today.
He just stared at the therapist like Good Will Hunting did to his.
DH wanted to flip out but the therapist told him to calm down.
So then the therapist, worth all his $150 per session figured out how to get into SS11's little attitude and made him break down. I don't know how.
SS11 spilled his guts - hates his Dad, wants to be with BM, thinks his little brother is a moron, doesn't understand why BM and DH got divorced, doesn't understand why he has to have 2 Moms.

I'm Not "Mom" But I am MOM. Does This Make Sense to Anyone?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 8:12pm

SS9's Therapist today: "Does it bother you that they don't call you mom?"

I shrug. "Not really ... I guess ... I mean ... I just hate hearing my 3 syllable name over and over and over. But I guess I would feel that way about them saying mom mom mom right?"

SS9's Therapist: "Not necessarily. But you DO realize that it's just a word right? And while words are important to kids, actions are important to healthy young adults ... you ARE their mother. That is your role. Now YOU have to accept your role."

Why Do They Miss Someone as Sneaky as Her?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Mon, 04/05/2010 - 10:03pm

Biggest hurdle for me is simply: "Why don't they see how much of a manipulative fake snot she is?"

SS9 knows BM is a liar.
SS11 flat out refuses to see it.

Why miss someone who treats you like crap?
Yeah yeah. Got it BIOLOGICAL bond. That is so superficial and every time I hear or read it I want to throw up.
I have seen children disown their parents and fair so much better for it.
Look at Cruella's situation ... she has her skids in her care now and they are doing so well - at least from what she relates.

Smarter Than I Thought

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sun, 04/04/2010 - 3:41pm

Well I just read some blogs about the Easter Bunny and all those fairy tale characters and it made me think of some things such as perhaps DH and I REALLY ARE horrible parents.

When SS11 and SS9 were SS7 and SS5, we told them the truth about everything, Santa Clause, Easter Bunny, all of it. They didn't get it at first so we didn't push them. They caught on at the end but not because we pushed it. We laid the foundation and let it happen.

MAN! We caught hell from the family. MIL was livid. BM said DH was a monster. Etc.

FABULOUS Start Today

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sun, 04/04/2010 - 11:42am

Woke up to the sun shining in the window and the sound of SS11 and SS9 running through the living room in bare feet. I love the sound of their feet smacking the tile floor ...
DH and I rolled over and looked at each other and didn't have to say anything. It's Easter.
We set out the eggs with the little clues in them last night so when the boys woke up, eggs were the first thing they saw.
At the end, was a garden pail with little bio-domes in them and little egg-sized greenhouses.
We planted those and the kids loved it!!!

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sat, 04/03/2010 - 5:40pm

I looked at pictures of SS9 today from 3 years ago - the short stint he spent living with his mother.
He was so unhappy. There is sadness in his eyes.
I looked at the photos of today and he has a twinkle and is just so beautiful outside.
How can BM not see this?

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