Why Do They Miss Someone as Sneaky as Her?
Biggest hurdle for me is simply: "Why don't they see how much of a manipulative fake snot she is?"
SS9 knows BM is a liar.
SS11 flat out refuses to see it.
Why miss someone who treats you like crap?
Yeah yeah. Got it BIOLOGICAL bond. That is so superficial and every time I hear or read it I want to throw up.
I have seen children disown their parents and fair so much better for it.
Look at Cruella's situation ... she has her skids in her care now and they are doing so well - at least from what she relates.
Are our boys going to date those women that manipulate them because men want women like their mothers and since she is never here and talks to them about once a week, they think this is how women SHOULD be?
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I think that, for a lot of
I think that, for a lot of kids, they know when their parents are bad people; yet, that's a hard thing for them to admit.
I think that, for SS11, he does this because he wants BM to be there. I don't think it's that he cant see it. I do think that he has a hope that BM will straighten out and be there for both of them, but he knows deep down that the chances of that happening are slim to none, and that's painful for him to accept.
Is SS11 in counseling?
Yes he is in counseling but
Yes he is in counseling but he acts like Good Will Hunting when he is there and just stares at the therapist.
My kids Father walked out on
My kids Father walked out on them about 5 years ago...he used to call every once in a while, he'd tell them lies about what all he was going to buy for them, or how much fun they were going to have, and never followed thru. Now, he's just off the radar completely - probably because he's in jail, but he's pretty much moved on with his life to become a full time junkie.
The kids still absolutely LOVE him with all of their heart, and only remember the good things about him. They want so much to have their Daddy in their life, and for him to do all the things that their friend's Dads do....acknowledging that he is the way he is, is giving up on the idea that they'll ever have that type of Dad again...so instead, they hold onto hope. Once they get a little older, the resentment will set in and the happy hopeful thoughts will soon disappear.
Sometimes, I wish they would hold on to those happy thoughts forever because the last thing I want is for their hearts to be filled with anger, hate, and resentment towards anyone...even their Father, even if he is a POS.
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