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Submitted by Lifer33 on Sat, 10/22/2022 - 9:39am

I have been having a clear out recently. I found in the loft a series of my framed travel prints from my photography days. A few in particular really bring me joy.  so I decided to ask hubby if he'd mind if I put them on our rogues gallery in the kitchen.

As an example one is a photo of a tiny vietnamese baby all rapped up in neon coloured tribal woollens, grinning up at/ in the arms of her mother. mum's cheek is half in the frame so you can see her beautiful earring, and the crowsfeet of what u can imagine is a beaming smile. That kinda stuff.

Hubby does no more than says, oh Sad but all these pictures are experiences with your ex :(  I don't know if I'm comfortable. 

So I held the picture up directly above an individual portrait of ss and said 'will it make you feel better if it's here,  right by the experience you've had with your ex? Grin.

Eye roll 

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JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Sat, 10/22/2022 - 10:36am

I love it!  Fast thinking!

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Submitted by CLove on Sat, 10/22/2022 - 11:14am

And repeat as necessary. Although he might adjust that to be "oh then we need to add more of skid".

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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Sat, 10/22/2022 - 11:22am

I love your response! Aint that the truth? We all have to deal with our significant other's past mistakes. Stepkids can be part of that mess - especially when they are raised like wolves. I think you should put put up your photos and when a guest compliments you on it, say "See honey, THEY appreciate my art."  ( Just to rub it in a little.) 

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Submitted by Noway2b1 on Sun, 10/23/2022 - 12:59pm

Immature. Our experiences are what made us who we are today. Good, bad, beautiful or ugly. I dated a man that did that all the time. About everything. From food to eventually my adult kids. Best thing I ever did was end that relationship (not saying you should) for me it was about accepting who I am today, because many life experiences made me that. 

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 10/23/2022 - 4:25pm

This is exactly right.

And why I would not change my past nor would I change DW's past.  Our experiences prior to meeting is what made us right for each other at the begining of us.

What we have built and experienced together since then is what continues to make us right for our unfolding future together.

Those that take exception to experiences their mate had prior to meeting that mate  certainly may be mmature.  Lifer33's DH being the poster chid of that in this situation.

I would not change a thing about my DW.  Her experiences as a single teen mom/statutory rape victim, her absolute commitment to completeing HS with her class and with honors while the school administrators were pressuring her to drop out and do her GED at the pregnant student program, flushing the Spermidiot and the SpermClan, leaving SpermLand with a toddler to pursue her BS....

All are part of what makes her so amazing.

My first marriage, dealing with a serially adulterous XW, a felonious XIL clan, etc... are part if  what made me the right man at the right time to make a life with my DW and to help raise her then toddler son.

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Sun, 10/23/2022 - 6:02pm

That's pretty good.

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Submitted by halo1998 on Mon, 10/24/2022 - 7:32am

everyone has a past....it how you handle that past, yours and theirs, makes a difference.