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Update about my SD SeniorK Grad...

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Submitted by Everyones Interest on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 1:33pm

I just wanted to take a second and thank everyone for his or her insight, support, and encouragement!

The Grad debate was solved…by none other than my adorable SD.

FH called yesterday for his nightly chat, and she instantly launched into how: "When you and Everyone's Interest come to my grad you will have to sit apart from Mommy." No prodding or coaching on anything...just said it.

SD continues on about how Mommy said that if Everyone's Interest comes that her(BM) and Daddy wouldn’t be able to sit together; SD was totally fine with that. She carried on about wanting to introduce me to her best friend b/c BFF really wants to meet me...and she wants to introduce me to another friend and if her parents were there than I could meet them too...and then we'll have chips.

I had tears in my eyes.

So...FH asks to speak with BM. Told her that the decision was made, and SD made it. BM confessed that it was selfish of her, but due to the circumstances this is very hard on her. FH acknowledged that, gave her some props here and there and then said that SD was innocent and shouldn't have to suffer and that we (FH and I) are always SD-centric.

Long story short, after reading all of your posts I had decided that I was going anyway... but after that call it took away that 'torn' feeling.

Now I just have to suck it up and grin. I hope it isn't too uncomfortable!

Thanks again folks...you've helped a tonne!!!

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Everyones Interest's picture

Submitted by Everyones Interest on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 1:46pm

I'm not a BM yet so I don't know these things, but do you get anything for a kid graduating SK?

I don't mean diamonds...but has anyone bought anything for them? Flowers? A little gift? Or..is that taking the whole SK grad thing to a hightened goofiness level?

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Submitted by Amazed on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 1:48pm

She sounds WAY too adorable!! I would get her a little something special...some sort of mini-goody bag with some inexpensive stuff in it. just as a congrats for being such a great kid and all that good stuff.

~I've been drinkin down your pain...gonna turn that whiskey into rain and wash you away...~

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Submitted by BMJen on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 2:42pm

Shoot, if it were my BD, rather when it is my BD I will be taking her out for ice cream, buying her stuff, etc! LOL!

I'm so glad that you are going and that your SD "forced" ya to go! Wink

~Happiness is defined by the smile on your face, not the frown on others.~

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 5:10pm

I can only hope my SD feels that way about me someday. I worked so hard to have a relationship with her, and BM used every bit of PAS in her arsenal to destroy any chance of that happening. You are very lucky and treasure the time she spends introducing you to her friends! Enjoy the graduation!

My H's niece graduated from HS last year (his sister passed away a few years ago and he's very close to his niece and nephew, and he is their only link to their mother's side of the family). Anyway, H's niece loves vintage clothing and has very funky taste in clothes. So I combed a few vintage and antique stores before I found a necklace made of old Delft beads. It was under $100 but she loved it. It makes me feel great when I see her wearing it! Smile

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 5:10pm

far as gifts are concerned.

My Son (SS) will graduate from HS next year and I plan on doing it up for him quite nicely as far as gifting is concerned. If he keeps his head out of his bahookie.

Best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi

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Submitted by Stick on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 5:47pm

Congratulations and have a great time!! My DH used to take his daughter a little bouquet for all of those things and then if we had her, we'd go out for pancakes or some special dinner she'd like. So happy it all worked out and that even BioMom got on board and realized she was being petty.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 06/02/2009 - 5:45am

Your SD sounds like a sweetie and a very smart girl!! I am also thrilled with your BM's response, maybe you have a good one!

Enjoy and I think maybe something little like a pretty but inexpensive piece of jewelry but anything really would be fine.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin