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Long story short - my partner and I have full custody of his 14 year old daughter for the last 5 years. BM has never paid a cent in child support & when I bring it up partner gets upset, because BM is very unstable & not in SD life due to trauma, drugs... so she pulls the pity card and he falls for it.
This past weekend (Thursday-Sunday) I took SD to Miami. I've been there multiple times with friends and assumed (keyword) SD17 would enjoy it.
While it wasn't overall terrible it wasn't really fun either... This was officially my last trip with skid/skids. We haven't taken SSs on vacation since they were 17/18.
I think these kids just don't know how to have fun anymore... I went to the jersey shore when I was 18 with my friends family and we had a blast. Granted SD was just with me she just was boring TBH. One thing I do know how to do... it's have fun.
So, in my adventures of life post graduation and 18, Princess Powersulk Do Nada, Our Lady of Inertia, goddess of Sloth hasnt done that much differently. Im just expecting things to be different, but they arent. Except child support is no longer going out 'da house.
Ive tried everything I could think of:
1. Task delegation
2. Asking arrival departure times/days
3. Printing out "how to get your id" and higlighting with added sticky notes.
4. Fake crying "this is stressing me out! I cant handle the powersulking!"
I was on a FB page about narcissists and came across this:
When you don't allow people to walk all over you anymore, the narrative will change. You'll become the villain in their story because you won't be giving them what they have no problem taking from you. But at least in your story, you'll be free.
Hi all,
I have been gone for awhile because everything was going ok now that my 3 SD's (18, 21, 23 ) are now all living with BM. SD23 is living in a trailer in the driveway - I totally called that one in 2018! But now its time for overchiever SD18 and her emotional support sister, 21, to go to college. Who pays for that? Well, we managed to split as18's 3 ways with BM and SD. SD21 had the fortitude to call and politely ask her dad for 1/3 of her tuition (community college) which we agreed to.
DH told me that he gave SS18 his old expired Driver's license when he dropped SS off at college. Why. WHY? I said Really?? Why would you do that? DH said "Everyone has them". I said yes, but not from their parents. Like Seriously, if I have to explain this to you DH. Whatever. Also, the DL was cracked down the middle, and SS does not look like a 44 year old man. It's like he's actively trying to get him in trouble. Not my problem. I just keep repeating, SS is gone, SS is gone...
Is it reasonable to ask for prenuptial agreement before marrying men with kids?
I wonder if some of the Disneyland Dad behavior would be curbed if they new they'd be divorced (again) and have to pay out (even more) if they failed to check their behavior/failed to be a better spouse who prioritizes marriage
*this could go for any gender
Curious how many have dealt with 7 year olds that cry when leaving mommy. It's not always. My SD recently turned 7 and she and bio mom have a very codependent relationship. It certainly feeds bio mom's narcissistic ego to have her baby girl need her and want her and cry for her. She is spoiled by mom in every way. They sleep in the same bed. My SD has learned to people please to mom.
Ok so imma try and make this as short as possible but with as much detail as I can. I been with my husband for 15 years this November, it has been a very long ride. When I met him he was honest about everything. He had one biological son age 3 and I had one son age 9 months. We talked on the phone a couple months before meeting in person right after my sons 1st bday. He lived a hour away, he also had a daughter that wasn't biological his (took a dna) but she doesn't know the truth. And his ex was pregnant with a kid that was either his or another guy.
This is just my experience....
But I've noticed that some men seem to think they own your time.
One of the things I disliked most about living with men is how they think you're supposed to be at their beck and call 24/7.
Dudes be like ..... "Oh you Just got off work? Ok now it's time for you to go take care of kids, run my errands, clean up after me and these kids, listen to me b*tch n moan (aka be my free therapist), participate in my delusions, etc"