Hi, you know we are all so freaky with our bm's (our dh's exs), well I read this article and actually a couple of the thoughts struck a note. Luckily my ex has not remarried but he has had gfs and bs15 has had to deal with them somewhat, not in the home b/c non of them have moved in with my ex but ex has taken bs out on his dates with him and hated it. Anyhow, I read this and thought I'd just share even though I am sure we've all read similar articles.

I just have to throw in a positive note on behalf of ss16. Today he was out helping dh cleaning and sorting garage and shed things. I came out to see the progress and noticed dh was sitting on a log and not working. I said I was happy that he was resting (he had chemo this week) and ss16 pitching in so willingly. Ss16 turned and said he'd help out with anything we need to get us moved and I said well if you work hard I'll definately want to buy you a game or something and he said he'd do it without bribes or deals or gifts. I just stood there looking at dh and dh was smiling.

So we talk about disengaging from skids, well I am also trying hard to disengage from sdog and it's not working. I have not fed the dog for 3 days, not watered him, not brushed him or bathed his lately and guess what, that dog is hungry, matted and stinks. Last evening I was telling dh to brush him and take care of his orphan annie dog. I am threatening to call him "Annie" now just to get my point across.

Sd27 and grandbaby left yesterday, and I made it through! I was ultra sweet to her and the baby so so cute, but she is still her and she still demands a lot from dh while she's here and dh ended up being the baby sitter all the time, more like the dump zone. They tried it on my and I was a sucker the first day but then would disappear into my room when a comment was made about having to do this or that, I'd quickly and quietly slip upstairs!