I just have to throw in a positive note on behalf of ss16. Today he was out helping dh cleaning and sorting garage and shed things. I came out to see the progress and noticed dh was sitting on a log and not working. I said I was happy that he was resting (he had chemo this week) and ss16 pitching in so willingly. Ss16 turned and said he'd help out with anything we need to get us moved and I said well if you work hard I'll definately want to buy you a game or something and he said he'd do it without bribes or deals or gifts. I just stood there looking at dh and dh was smiling. Later I asked dh why ss16 was all of a sudden being so different and he said he'd chosen to be that way so his dad can get well this year b/c he wants his dad around for 30 more years! I was so touched by this and dh was so happy. It just feels like it's all worth it when your skid pulls his head out of his ass and grows up a bit It's not often that we come on this site and brag but I am today b/c my heart is really happy. This does not mean I am not stressed from work and moving and dh having cancer, but in the middle of all that stress there was this nice little blessing. Just wanted to share