Big ears behind the curtain
The other day ss16 was hiding behind the curtain we (had) separating the rec room from the house (to cut down on heating costs) and over heard part of a conversation btw Dh and myself. We were talking and I said that for now I am working two jobs honey and don't mind but once your cancer is gone you can work two jobs and take care of me!! Something like that, and of course we were bantering back and forth talking about many things. All of a sudden ss come whipping through the curtain (it was early sunday morning and we didn't even know he was up yet) and went storming up the steps. We both were shocked he was even up! So later dh asked him why he almost tore the curtain down and he said he's sick and tired of sterling always bragging about how hard she's working and rubbing it into his dad's face how he's sick and can't work, etc. Dh told him that he heard PART OF AN ADULT CONVO and should not have taken things I said out of context and that we were bantering back and forth and more then bragging I was excited he was getting better from the chemo and looking forward to him getting back to work and living life, but how I said it was too subtle for a 16 yr old to understand.
We took the curtain down.
It had been becoming a problem with ss just sitting back there on his couch (his b/c it's too filthy for anyone else to sit on) and turning his phone on silent and playing his xbox on silent and then listening. He is a very nosy kid. When my sis was here and we'd talk he was always butting in with comments. Anyhow you know that sort of kid. Mr. knowitall.
So now ss16 is once again not talking to me and slamming around the house. One thing I appreciate about my own boys is for one thing they get me and how I operate, second we talk and they don't slam around breaking things. SS16 NEVER talks and so his actions are his words, when he is happy (which is only when he is playing xbox) he talks like crazy and he still talks in sort of a baby style like when he says Killed He says it like keewd. It bugs me to no end but I like it when he's happy.
Anyhow so I bought him some thing yesterday that he likes, like an AXE body spray, his fav shaving gel, razors and deodorant. He's all about getting dressed up for church these days and was borrowing his dad's things so I thought he'd like it. I bought some for bs15 as well and got big THANKS from him but NOTHING from ss at all not even a grunt.
UHG, why do I even care???? I just want the kid GONE. DH told me the other day ss16 wants to go to a college on the opposite end of the country and I inwardly did a jig! Two more years of HS and then GONE! Yahoo!
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I hear you! My bio's thank me
I hear you! My bio's thank me for everything, from preparing meals to whatever I do, that's the way they were raised. My bio's treat my DH better than his own kids do.
I will be happy when my skids are raised and hopefully on their own...far, far away! }:)
got big THANKS from him but
got big THANKS from him but NOTHING from ss at all not even a grunt.
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Then take this stuff back.
sd20 liked to think she was
sd20 liked to think she was hiding behind doors or around curtains to eavesdrop, but we always knew she was there. nosiest bitch i have ever seen in my life. always has been. she would even listen thru registers to try to hear us when we were upstairs and she was downstairs.
when she was 15, i needed to talk to mil about something alone, and fdh grabbed her and told her they were going outside. she stood there staring at me and didn't move. fdh told her again more forcefully to get out and she whined very loudly "but i want to know what they are talking about!!!!" dumb bitch. at 15, she didn't even have the sense to respect a private conversation. she can't stand not knowing my business. i don't know what her obsession with me is. she has been like this the whole time i've been with fdh. wants to know everything and anything there is going on with me, what i say and do, what other people say to me, everything. this is how i know she tries to fb stalk me. that is her only window to my life anymore, and even though it's boarded up, she will try like hell to peek thru the cracks. pathetic.
Oh stepdevil14 LOVED to sneak
Oh stepdevil14 LOVED to sneak into conversations she wasn't a part of. She'd hang out in doorways, hallways, around corners just to see if she could hear a snippet of our talks and then try and use that against us later on.
It got to the point that if she was over for visitation and I had to have a serious conversation with DH about anything, I'd take him out to the truck!
we couldn't talk anywhere!
we couldn't talk anywhere! even if we were in the car and she had headphones on, if she saw me smile, laugh, or respond to fdh in any way, she was ripping the headphones out, leaning forward as far as she could, and demanding to know what we were talking about. same thing if i was on the phone. just hovering around me, listening. i really do not understand why she is so damn fascinated with me.
My SD18, about 2 years ago,
My SD18, about 2 years ago, was sitting on our cellar stairs, with the cellar door CLOSED, and managed to overhear a convo between me and DH in the kitchem (she must have had her ear pressed to the door) and heard me say that she was just like her mother, who could start an argument in an empty room.
Of course, she went back to NPD BM moaning about it, and NPD BM told DH I had to apologise!! Yeah right, it's going to be a cold day in hell, before I apologise for telling the truth. Did too much of that with my exH.
SD16 stands outside our
SD16 stands outside our bedroom door and tries to listen. When she was about 11 I told DH that SD was sitting outside our door listening and she does it all the time. He did not believe me. So he quietly walked over to the door and flung it open. There was SD on the ground with her ear to the door. I never saw her run so fast in her life.
She still tries it every once in awhile. I will catch her outside our bedroom and she will pretend she was just about to knock. If I ask her what she wanted she says she forgot and runs to her room. Nosy bitch!!
SD16 also storms around the house saying nothing, but slamming doors and being a bitch with her actions. You can cut the tension in the air with a knife. I hate her living here so much.
I have tried to do nice things for her or pick up something I thought she would like. Usually she just throws it on the counter and leaves it there or brings it down to her room and throws it away. I am done with her.
I am praying she turns 18 and moves far away!!!
it never ceases to amaze me
it never ceases to amaze me how your sd is my sd's identical personality twin. i am so damned sorry there are more than one of them in the world.
Oh Im with ya I got SD17 some
Oh Im with ya I got SD17 some sunscreen that she can use for track meets like the one with the hook that hooks on to her back pack I got not even a thank you.
But that's ok because I do not buy her anything. Ever. Not since I realized she was using me to buy her stuff and I disengaged.
Buying the sunscreen was about grabbing it for my husband so he didnt have to make a special trip to get it. I got a huge hug and a kiss from DH. And made sure I said to SD17 when she walked by, your welcome for the sunscreen, oh that's right your Daddddyyyyy thanked me already...flip hair turn on heel and walk away!
SD here that needs to control
SD here that needs to control the house...listening in on convos constantly. Wife finally caught on and tells her to shut up and go away. I'll be glad when she leaves. That's dangerous behaviour...something gets taken out of context and god knows what could come of it.
Wow, read all your comments
Wow, read all your comments and they're all so good. My dh seems to think that ss's school counselor is good enough but I am wondering. I know my boys have been in counseling now for 4 years and they both thank me for keeping them going even when at times they didn't think they need to go. My boys also treat dh, their sdad, a lot better then even his kids treat him. Ss19 is the worst, he acts so inconsiderate of his dad having cancer and is such a drama king and his life is always falling apart. Dh just listens and then tells him that since he's 20 he can figure things out b/c after all when he was 20 he'd been away from home and his dad for 4 years already.
Ss16 used to say thanks for meals all the time but he is so morose lately and so self absorbed. He used to listen by our bedroom door too and then tell his dad the next day whether or not he gives good sex based on if I made enough noise or not. I would have strangled him but he's not my kid but I am very aware that we could have ears listening at all times. So maybe according to all that dh doesn't give good sex anymore. haha
The one thing that bothers me the MOST is that he thinks he is above us now that he's going to church. He is always correcting his dad and saying things that put dh down. Dh never says puts his son in his place, he just lets things go.
Anyways, it's just all annoying and makes me wish he'd grow up faster. My mom once told me that the reason teens are so obnoxious is so when they do finally leave the parents don't cry and wish they'd come back!