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Watching from the sidelines - Another WWYD?
Following up from my last post about us considering talking to a lawyer. Like so many SM's on here I get sad when stuff happens because I know that there isn't much that I can do to fix it and DH for whatever reason seems to be waiting for a sign from god that says he should go for it.
My last post was : http://www.steptalk.org/node/105228
So here is what I saw from the sidelines tonight.
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attachment issues and custody - WWYD?
I think it's time to talk to a lawyer - to discuss the current CO, problems with the SKids and BM behavior - and figure out our options. DH thinks the only option is going for full custody. He is worried that if we go for full custody we could loose joint custody and if we win SKids will come to hate him because they are both (overly) attached to BM.
I will try to keep this short.
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Dear BM, I am sorry your sick but...
You don't get to take time off from parenting. Not that she ever really parented in the first place but you know what I mean. Plus she doesn't look very 'sick' to me.
In my last post I said that I was curious about what was going on with BM. She told us that she couldn't take SS7 to the dentist this Friday because she was having surgery. DH and I expressed concern and offered to take the sKids but BM said no, she would have family in town to help out and gave no indication as to what was wrong with her - not that it is any of our business.
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none of my business but I am still curious
BM told DH that she can't take SS7 to the dentist next Friday because she is having surgery. I know it's not my place but I would like to know what is wrong with her (physically, mentally I know she is a fruit cake). Does that make me a stalker?
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Do shared holidays mean BM gets the kids whenever she wants and as much as she wants?
I ask because this year Christmas Eve and Christmas day both fall on our week. We have 50/50 custody EOW. This is the first time in 3 years that DH will have his kids- SS5 and SS7 - on Christmas morning. We have known this little fact for a year and DH is really excited about it. Currently they 'share' the holidays. DH never complained the last few years because that is just how the days fell.
Lying BM must think SS5 is stupid
SS5 has been diagnosed with High Functioning Autism, but I have said all along the he is very smart. When BM dropped off the boys on Sunday she told DH that SS5 was wearing SS7's old boots because he lost his new boots at school. The ones that DH bought for him.
On Monday I asked SS5 to look for his green boots and when he came home I asked him if he had found his green boots at school. He told me. "No, they are not at school. They are at home, at mom's house." I asked him if he was sure. "Yes, I am sure. They are at mom's house."
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Another weird phone call
An automated system just called our house phone looking for bm's husband. It's weird because he has never lived here. BM supposedly didn't start dating him until after the divorce, after she moved out of the house. DH got the house and the phone number the the divorce. So there is no way his name should be associated with our number. The system gave me options and I picked the one that said that person can not be reached at this number. It thanked me and said it would update its records. I told DH and he wants to tell BM about it in person, maybe even I front of her husband.
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BM not concerned about issues with SS
I would like to think that I am a very bright person, but truth be told I am probably of average intelligence. But when as the color red ever been a good thing?
SS7 has a note book that he brings home every day from school lately we have noticed marks in his book with the following colors - Green, Yellow and Red. This has picked up since the Parent teacher conference where the teacher told both DH and BM that SS7 is having issues paying attention.
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So many stupid questions.
It seems this week ss7 has been just full of questions and concerns that I don't want to answer. Mainly because I don't know how at his age to answer them correctly. They range from serious to odd to heart breaking.
A few of them:
At dinner one night this week we told ss7 that we were doing to Las Vegas next week for our honeymoon. He wanted to know why he couldn't go. When we said it was just for adult he asked who was going to watch him. Um... Your mother it's her week. Oh yeah. Then he asked the same thing the next night.
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For some one that has done this before DH seems clueless
DH and I are trying to get pregnant. But for some one that has done this TWICE he seems to ask really a lot of questions.
After our wedding we agreed that because of our ages (31 and 29) that we would start trying right away. But when I went and made an appointment with a doctor, a dentist and got an eye exam DH asked me what I was doing. I told him that I was getting ready. the doctor even refereed me to an OBGYN already for a per-pregnancy consultation.