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More Tears of Pide and Joy

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My son (SS) left to return to boarding school on Sunday. He was home for 8 days over Thanksgiving and we had a great time.

Before he left we discussed his academic performance which is currently significantly improved over his performance the first two years of high school. He has been struggling with his advanced Alg class. He started after the first few weeks of this semester with a low F. We helped him set up plan to get extra help and to prioritize how he does his work so that he could work on getting his grade in Alg up.

Got in a little hot water with the Bride this evening.

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My SS calls Tuesday and informs us that his last final exam is on Wed after next and he would like for us to rebook his flight to fly home on Thus rather than Fri from boarding school. The posted finals schedule is clear that the kids can leave after their last final and that Thus is make up day for any missed finals or rescheduled tests.

The Kid is home from Military School for Thxgiving.

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And he is awesome! He is two inches taller (because he now stands up strait, tall and proud) and has lost ~35lbs. He has been in ZERO trouble so far and his leaders and instructors all speak very highly of him and his performance. His grades are a little better than they were last year but that is a significant accomplishment since he is now in a very rigorous college prep program .

OK, this post is from an "Idiot Man" who is nothing more than an "animal that is ready to lay down and die".

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Or something like that. The title sentence is an amalgam of a couple of comments made in recent threads.

I would like to point out that there are a whole heck of a lot more stories about whack job BMs and SMs than BFs and SFs. If volume of issues is any indicator, us males are down right geniuses.

Ok, now that I have taken this one giant step for man, I will crawl back in to my idiot guy hole and keep my head down for a while as I am sure I have now convinced everyone that I am an idiot because I chose to open my big mouth.

A good friend's daughter is getting in to a blended family situation.

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The set up for this may be a bit convoluted so please bear with me.

A good friend of mine has a 24yo daughter who is in a developing relationship with a young man (her age +/-) who has two children by a previous marriage. This man signed whatever papers his Ex put in front of him and committed himself to extremely high CS and alimony payments to his XW. My friends daughter drug him to an attorney in order to get professional advice on how to address the extremely high CS and alimony burden.

The laws of physics have shifted ...................... SPERMMATH has arrived!

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Ok, get this.

SpermIdiotGrandMa has come up with SpermMath. She has explained how she came to the ever shifting number that SpermDad should pay for winter visitation travel. How she got to her new number is that if SpermIdiot does not take my SS for his court ordered Christmas visitation my Wife and I will have to pay the total round trip from School to our home and back. Because that would be our cost if they don't take him the rules of SpermMath indicate that we should pay for that plus half of the rest of the cost. ????????????????????? :?

Communication with my Lovely Bride

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My Wife has had a hard time with the latest round of SpermFamily drama.

This is the e-mail I sent her today:

H.

Here is a PDF of the judgement per our discussion last night. I have sent it to your work, hotmail and my yahoo addresses so that we can keep in readily available for reference.

Please know that you are an amazing woman and an amazing Mother. Do not let "them" ever shake your confidence in those facts, your accomplishments or yourself.

The spermIdiots are crawling out of their hole again ................. let the games begin!

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All,

Well it starts ....................... again! It is time to make reservations for winter visitation. SpermIdiotGrandMa is once again taking the lead in setting up visitation and is once again applying creative logic and mathematics to determining who pays what.

To get my SS from school to them, them to us and us back to school is the goal from our perspective. Apparently from theirs it is to creatively figure out how to not have to pay half.

Weekend Full of Tears ... of Pride and Joy

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All,

We flew to visit my 16yo SS at his Military School for Parents Weekend. It was an amazingly good weekend. Seven weeks ago we dropped off a pudgy, slouching, moody young man with low self confidence and low self esteem. He was a good kid who I would trust with all of my worldly possessions and with my life but I could not believe one word that came out of his mouth. He was a manipulator and had a really bad habit of only telling us what he thought we wanted to hear.

Still here and will stay.

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All,

Some of you will be disappointed and some won't mind.

Regardless of which side of the the fence you fall, thanks for the support and for the opposing perspectives on my posts and responses.

I will continue to pan and participate because I feel this is a valuable forum focusing on a very important topic.

I remain a staunch advocate of teaching kids the importance of accountability and respect. Anything else is a disservice to the kids.

All IMHO of course.

Best regards,

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