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Inexpensive and fun things to do with the Skids to have fun and make them speak well of you and your spouse.

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All,

This came up during SW-19s discussion on turning up the positive vibes with her time with Blabb.

I thought it would be a good thing to get it in to its own thread.

Someone mentioned Tea Parties so I will start with that and add a couple that I have done with my Son (SS) from current going pact to the start of our SS/SDad career when he was 15mos old.

"At some point problems children inherit from parents become the child's problem to solve"

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The above is a a quote from my Mom.

As parents, we all impart some baggage on our kids. Some of us burden our Spawn (Step or Bio) with more severe baggage than others.

As my Mom once told me when I was bitching about some now unremembered complaint during my teen years, "At some point problems children inherit from parents become the child's problem to solve so you are going to have to solve this one because I obviously could not figure it out before I passed the problem on to you".

Blind sided by a problem I did not even realize was a specific problem. Though I realized that something was wrong. O/T BTW.

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So, in the tradition of John, Kate and several members of the the Stalker community ......... On Thursday of last week my Wife decided to finally dish on what has been bothering her for the past few months. This was not a total surprise because I have been picking up on some less than tender body language, looking away from me when I have made attempts at good natured flirting, etc.......

John and Kate bite the dust.

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Sad, sad, sad. But, not surprising considering the increasing tension and lack of communication building over the past 3 or so years.

I honor their decision to let the kids stay in their home and John and Kate rotate out on their alternating schedules.

Wow, truly sad.

Everyone hug your spouse tonight and tell your kids/Skids that you love them.

Best regards,

It is now official. I am now the worlds most evil Step Father.

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MY SS did comparatively well this past school years academically. However, he struggles with writing structured papers and absolutely hates it. English was his lowest grade and he BARELY made the cut in that class.

I instructed him to find a Sylvan Center or a similar program and get himself signed up for a Writing class so that he can go back to school in the fall for his Sr year of high-school better prepared to perform well in English and other writing intensive courses.

BioDad and SpermGrandMa suddenly have developed a keen interest in grilling the Skid to make sure that HE is doing what HE wants

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These people have never given a flying rats ass about anything but how to avoid responsibility for my SS and how to use the Visitation/CS CO to manipulate my Wife.

Now, all of a sudden, they are keenly interested in making sure that SS WANTS to go to JROTC Leadership Camp and that Mom and SDad are not forcing him to go?????????????

And he just got off of the phone with BioDad. He actually called the idiot to tell him.

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BioDad asked two questions.

1. Do you want to do this or do your Mom and HIM want you to do it?

Good question and exactly the question I would ask if I was him. So I will throw him a bone and say that he has at lease one viable brain cell in his head.

2. How much is this going to cost me?

The Skid is truly becoming a formidable young man.

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So, the kid gets a letter on Friday informing him he has been selected for and invited to Summer Leadership Camp the two weeks before school starts. This is a really cool thing for kids that attend Military School. It means the Cadet Leadership, the academic staff and the administration think he has something to offer and it develops kids in to leadership roles in the Corps of Cadets.

The whole invitation letter thing is a funny story that I will blog on later.

Yes, it often happens that a truly inept parent retains custody or visitation even with impeccable witnesses against them.

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In a now deleted thread asking if a custody or visitation can be stopped due to a person be a poor parent it was asked if teachers, school officials and other impeccable witnesses condemn the individual as a poor parent. In my research and direct experience it takes a truly incredible chain of events and heinous behavior by a parent to take custody or visitation away. To the detriment of the child. IMHO.

The answer is often yes, it is extremely difficult to take custody or visitation even from a truly bad parent.

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