Hi everyone, today I have been trying to update myself on whats going on with everyone. Since my last blog, I felt like I was going to hit rock bottom with all the craziness that was going on and I decided to take time off and go to my parents' house and get myself together. I left my older daughter with my sister and took the younger one with me. BF was not amused but I had to do what I needed to do for my sanity. I came back yesterday and I am so refreshed. BF and I didn't talk much while I was at my parents' so he was updating me of his divorce situation yesterday. He told me the divorce judgement arrived two weeks ago. As I was reading it, I was seething with anger about the stipulations. There was not a speck of justice in it. First, the main issue about visitation is so unfair and correct my opinion if I'm wrong. I thought visitation during the summer vacation is split into half between the parents. BF was awarded only 1 week during the summer vacation. Then he got the usual every other weekend. Can the family court system justify how that falls into their 'motto' that their decisions are for the best interests of children? They should rethink that. BM was then awarded all of BF's retirement funds and another hefty amount in the 20 grands which is due by year's end. Her retirement account that she raided right before BF filed for divorce was not put into consideration. All in all she will be getting close to 100 grand. Its obvious the judge did not even look at my BF's evidence when making the decisions. BF has no problem with CS. I wrote a blog about BF's trial day experience. The judge fell for BM's lies and manipulations. I just read a post where someone said that it seems like(I quote) 'the stupid and uneducated morons are the ones who scam the system.' People with intergrity are the ones who deal with the aftermath. One would think that the judges with their level of education could be able to see through some of these blatantly conniving minds, but they don't and they just play along with them. It is so obvious that even a 5yr old can decipher that BM is only after money. She has tried hard to alienate the kids from their father against court visitation orders and the judge just dismisses that. How are kids suppose to form a bond with their father if the very judges that are appointed to safeguard that bond are the ones tearing it apart? Shame on such judges. Hope their conscience bothers them for life for destroying families. As for BM, all she wants is to live on other people's sweat. Being the person she is, she will squander that money and try to milk out some more from BF. What does she gain by being so evil? Appealing doesn't look possible coz we don't have the $. BF will survive this crap and come out even much better. All the men out there going through the crud period, keep the faith. Its a real life nightmare. I now see the importance of having a lawyer during divorce. Caitlin, I commend you for backing your man and even offering to use your tax refunds to get him a lawyer. Men, if you have a woman like Caitlin and so many other members of this website who go through hell to stand by you when dealing with the uncivilised kind of BM's, please try hard to love and honor them. Don't cower to the manipulative BM's who's only goal is to make you miserable by hook or crook. Work together with the loving women in your life to deal with the most important issue and that's the Skids. When people love and support each other, it makes it easier to deal with the unpleasant stuff.