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Submitted by jlmtik164 on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 9:46am

Just checking on you. How are you doing? Hope you are taking care of yourself. How is the situation with SD? Keep us updated. Have a great day.

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 10:05am

Thanks for the reminder to take care of myself. I'm so afraid that all the stress hormones coursing through my system are adversely affecting my baby. I lost 2 lbs. this month whereas I should be gaining, so my doctor reminded me to eat regularly. I tend to lose my appetite when my stomach is churning because of BM's antics.

The situation with SD just seems to be getting worse and worse. I was supposed to leave a half hour ago to attend her family therapy session with her dad, but SD was so worried about what that would do to her relationship with her mother, that the social worker advised me not to come. So, again, BM is succeeding at alienating me from our family. I guess it will be ok, because I will participate in the session via speakerphone, so it will be just like I am there, and I won't have to be out of work for nearly 3 hours. (The clinic is nearly an hour away from my office.)

I hope and pray that the psychiatrist sees that BM is making SD sick. I feel like we need to petition for emergency custody to get her out of there, to keep her safe. Unfortunately, BM is like a cancerous tumor that has metasticized and now has ahold on all of SD's vital organs, such that trying to remove her (BM, the tumor) will kill SD. They're in this horrible interdependent relationship and it's just sick.

My heart goes out to that little girl. I hate this so much. We feel so helpless against this monolith.

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Submitted by jlmtik164 on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 2:45pm

with the psychiatrist who was quick enough to detect BM's manipulation and lies. That's a huge positive step in the situation and hope that is making you feel a little relief. I just love your relentless fight for your SD despite your physical and emotional state and it shows how much you care and want the best for her. Maybe you and your DH can talk to psychiatrist about wanting to file for emergency custody and the psychiatrist can give you his thoughts about it on how it might affect SD. You and SD are always in my prayers. Stay strong, something positive will come out of the situation.

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 2:55pm

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. I know you have your own problems to worry about, so it really means a lot. I've been following your story with BF and BD and it just breaks my heart. A 6-year-old should never have to go through that. I hope that you will be able to resolve this, and soon. I'm sending out a prayer for you too!

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Submitted by sweetthing on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 1:42pm

This has got to work out. I can't believe that woman is going to be able to pull the wool over a bunch of mental health care professionals. Your family has a lot of people keeping you in their thoughts & prayers.

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 1:51pm

The psychiatrist said she knew what was up within 5 minutes of meeting BM. So I am no longer feeling so worried and helpless about BM pulling the wool over everyone's eyes. We have the mental health professionals on our side... as well as all of you!

I wrote an update on my BM coaching SD to lie in therapy blog if you want to check it out.

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. They're working!