Well. This doesn't have much to do with step parenting. I have no place to write this.

I had a minor stroke this past week. I'm young. It had everything to do with stress. We sat at a meeting with inlaws about MIL asking steps to keep secrets, etc. My FIL got enraged, threw a physical tantrum & hit me with his hat. Intentionally & hard & dramatic. It didn't hurt. Scared the holy crap out of me. 72 hours straight of unbearable stress, as this wasn't the only thing during those 3 days. Anyways. Went to ER. That's all I want to say about that.

So. I blogged about my mother-in-law having a picture in her house of bio mom & DH when they were married. A big family photo. (Divorced 6 years) We've been married 3. I NEVER saw this picture before. But she is a hoarder so who can be SURE right? Well I was 98% sure. 2% I've been wrong on that slim before. Well. The stepkids came. Said over break bio mom went to grandma's & they were to keep it a secret. (I know. I know. Fucked up... We have dealt with that)

Out of 4 "parents" (bios & steps) I feel like I'm the only one actively trying to better the emotional state of these children. My DH just goes day to day, saying the same things, which are good things "be honest... be fair... always do your best..." Etc but it takes a forrest fire to get him actively parenting.

Ok. So I have a situation I'm going to briefly explain & then ask a question.

Bio mom has caused a lot of problems, from money to emotional and everything in between. She's remarried & was before my DH & had even met, and for that matter was cheating while they were married! But she still tells the kids that if not for ME their dad & her would be a family! Blames ME!!! She's a nut job.