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Included vs invited. Neither please.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 5:52pm

Oh that's right it's Wednesday. Every damn day we have kids or the Friday we have them for the weekend my Inlaws call to put pressure onto talk, see kids whatever.

History: We haven't seen them in 5 months bc of MIL insane behavior with SD7. DH has not talked to her about it. And says he has enjoyed the break so isn't in a big hurry to talk.

Step sister is dulling her sparkle.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 4:27pm

I feel bad because both DH and I have daughters. We will go someplace & without fail someone or several people will tell my daughter how beautiful she is. Sometimes go on and on about it. Now this has happened her whole life. I do NOT put a huge emphasis on beauty. When I complement her or if someone else does, I always add something about her spirit too. "She's also got a great heart!" Or "The outside matches the inside!" My daughter is several years older, so it's not the age... It is just that my daughter is remarkable beautiful. DH daughter, I think is cute.

Not. A. One.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 1:55pm

Ok. I just had a big rant melt down about MIL. FIL told DH "just tell your mom when she does something & move on with life" That's all it took. Que meltdown. Tell her. Tell her. Like that works first of all. And tell her. Who do we know that we have to tell hey don't go thru our trash, hey don't tell my kids that SM isn't their parent, hey don't ask my wife if I sexually satisfy her (yeah!!!

It's been a nice vacation

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 1:44pm

My DH is talking to his dad on the phone as I type. MIL is obsessing about not talking with us & the big push is on for Christmas. Fuck. Me. Now. If you have followed anything on my blog concerning my bat-shit crazy MIL you know the swearing is warranted. I feel like she isn't happy unless she ruling the roost. & she's so much as said that. She thinks she should be part of the decision making process because she and I will quote, "has know DH & skids longer than you" wth?!?! No really?! Ugh. I swear with all of the contention we have with the exes it's like having a 3rd.

I'm not the same bc they're not the same.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 11:20am

I don't like to do fun things unless my kids are there. DH makes comments like "you are different when your kids aren't here" or "my kids only get the fun side of you when your kids are here" Yeah I know. I just say "well I feel more fun when my kids are here" or "I'll try to be less blah" But in reality my kids are fun, enjoyable & happy themselves. His kids they're flat in emotion. It's either depressive or obnoxious. There are a small amount if times they're kind of enjoyable. It's hard to put forth effort when the exude negativity.

Step kids stink. Literally.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 9:15am

My step kids come stinky. Not visibly dirty. Just stinky. Stinky hair. Bunsy smelling. My kids notice. And often say something.

My kid: "SS13 stinks! He smells like butt!"
Me: "I KNOW! Okay. So he stinks. Don't be rude."
SS13: "What?"
DH: "What's the deal?"
Me: "SS13 is smelly." (blink. blink.) "Um, perhaps the kids should shower when we get home?"
(birds chirping. crickets. frog croaks.)

Killing old habits

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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 11:40pm

As much as I'd like to disengage. I can't. I have kids. DH has kids. It's taken me a long time. 4 years. To get DH to parent the lil shits & require them to have better behavior. I feel like I've got to be there all the damn time bc they're always working him & old habits die hard. You may think I'm controlling. That's not my nature. At all. But I could see how it may sound that way. It's more me scared of it going back to how it was & we have made some progress. DH is easily guilted by the naughty pushy blessings. Before it was so off balanced. Rules for my kids.

Bio mom is a creeper

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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 11:13pm

My SS13 and bio mom do full on mouth kisses, he sits on her lap, gives her huge twirling hugs. All in front of a crowd. This has happened THREE times that I have witnessed a school sporting event. He has no peer awareness that this is odd. I have a son14. I am very affectionate. This is completely different. It's like a romance movie. Counselor says the overly affectionate behavior is because he is protective of his mom & that sometimes comes out like this. It creeps me out. I literally have to look away when I see it.

Guilt reward

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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 10:51pm

It'll be interesting to see how the rude step son13 acts next role he comes bc he received a reward for good behavior. With Christmas coming, something tells me he will be a lil butt. Bio mom is a rager & instead of coming to her kids with an appropriate apology for acting like a loon, she just takes them shopping. So.... The step kids are in a terrible life pattern of trying to get a negative response ...because with mom that means you get things. Yeah. Doesn't work with us. SD 7 has figured that out. But not SS13. Wth. Anyone else have that going on?

There. I said it.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 8:36pm

I want to do Christmas' separate. My kids. His kids. Because frankly, I want to get my kids more. There. I said it. We've been kicking around ideas of when & what & who for a few weeks now. Please note the reasons are many. Simply put, my step kids are on the naughty list. Haha. They're not fun to give to. They're ungrateful, rude & unenthusiastic when they are given anything. Who has to prompt a damn 13 year old to say "thank you"?!?! Eh. Do you do Christmas gifts together with skids & yours or separate & why?

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