When is a good time to be done?
If things couldn't get any worse, we got served papers last night, for the steps. Last week I got served for mine. Court. Lots of court. Trying to not stress out. I'm wondering how much can we take? I've already had a stroke. And the kids will be here at the end of the week. I don't want them to know but my speech isn't 100% clear still & the finger numbing is fairly obvious & my feet too. But most of all I get confused & then frustrated. I feel like if we tell them or if they notice, it's just a reason for the other households to celebrate. And my ex already tells my kids I'm going to die all the fucking time bc he's a vile abusive ass hole. Well that escalated quickly. Ok. That's enough sharing. What do I do???
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Mine is for property we still
Mine is for property we still own together. He isn't paying. Court ordered to. Hasn't in over a year. To be honest I've not even checked to see if he was paying. It's ordered that he pay until it sells & he did for 3 years (now 4) so I didn't think this was one department that I needed to be bothered with.
My DH. Bio doesn't want kids with me when DH isn't there. Like for even a second.
My mother took her life when
My mother took her life when I was a child. During our Seperation he told the kids I would do the same. I am in therapy, have been since that happened. Use to be 2x a week for a decade as I was a child. Then into adulthood 1 - 2 month. I have never been suicidal. Thankfully. I believe depression is an illness that untreated can lead to death. Suicide. I've been an advocate for this message. I am very aware of my emotional & mental health having this history. He uses this to scare them. It's abusive and insane. I have run marathons, I am diabetic also. I am fit. No health problems to be afraid of death. We actually went to court on this issue. The counselors involved were removed bc of their involvement supporting what ex was saying & "preparing them for death of a parent" as the judge put it. My ex is politically high up. It's been a long battle but we got a new judge & he doesn't seem to give a crap who my ex is.
If that is all the BM is
If that is all the BM is suing for, give it to her. They are not your kids and you are not responsible for them when he is not there. Your health comes first. But, health aside, I kinda of agree with BM on this one. Is it a pain, yes and inconvenient. But they are their kids, not yours, you do not have to pick up their slack and the bio's need to care for their kid.
If you settle with her on that you can let that battle go. You are going to have another stroke if you don't let some of these things go and put yourself first.
Make it easy for yourself,
Make it easy for yourself, I'd give her ROFR for 4 hours or more with her doing ALL Transport. But i think you have to fight this, otherwise he couldn't run to the corner store without skids.
That's where it's at. I don't
That's where it's at. I don't babysit. I don't transport. He went to get supplies for work. 1 hour while kids were sleeping. Yeah.