Today SS got in trouble today for telling his teacher that he wasn't going to do his work because he didn't want to and she couldn't make him - this turned into him not having recess and a email to DH which SS didn't know about.

I will say according to DH when he picked him up and asked about his day SS did at least fess up to what happened. DH says they talked about and he couldn't ride his 4-wheeler today as a warning. From the way it sounds they talked enough but were still able to have a decent afternoon until sightword time in which SS did nothing but guess and not pay attention. I guess they eventually got them done as I ended up going outside because it was just aggravating to watch.

Fast forward to dinner and BM calls to tell SS goodnight and tell him how excited she is to see him tomorrow blah blah blah (we put in on speaker phone because of past comments she has made) - well I guess DH had told him he needed to tell BM he got in trouble today so everyone was on the same page in relation school. SS tried to get off the phone without saying anything well DH called him out on it and SS turned on the I eat to cry voice and look when he told BM to which she asked why he got in trouble but had no further comment except have a better day tomorrow and how much she missed him - no real sign of disappointment more of a it'll be ok comforting you'll be home tomorrow don't worry reaction.

This scares me as we've known crying had helped BM give in but didn't know how affective it still was as she had tried to put up a more disciplinarian front to DH. So I feel like we are going to have a loooong road ahead of us especially when he is at BMs house because is she going to make him be honest with DH about his day like DH did or will she just defend him and DH have to find out through the teacher.

I know part of his attitude comes from BM being very good at making excuses for her kids and not taking education seriously (she only had a 3rd grade education as that is when her mom decided to "homeschool" her and she's now 34/35 somewhere in there and still has no GED or drive to get it - when DH and I first by together he was even still offering to pay for the classes and her test so she had some means of education).

I just fear the future especially for DH who is big on good behavior and education. It hurts me to see too big I know that its not my place to do anything or comment I just have to support DH and let him express his feelings to me.

I just needed to rant a little bit.