FLEA BM IS A BITC#

I am a teacher and have breaks off of school so on my DHs days with his son I watch him when he has no school. I have no idea where he goes when she has him. She works at a school but not a teacher so she has to work the breaks but get out early at 2 instead of 3:30 so she picked him up from my house that I built with DH whom she is still in love with. She did not want to pick him up from me but if not she would have to wait until 5:30 for DH to bring him to her house. So my DH calls me and tells me she called him and to have my 4 year old SS out in the driveway waiting for her. Well I did not send my 4 year old SS out to wait in the driveway, I do live in NY. So when I saw her car I got him ready which took awhile because he was crying saying that he hates his mom and does not want to go, he told me to tell her he was not home, but I managed to get him in his boots and coat, but not gloves, he had his hood up so I sent him out without gloves not wanting to make her wait any longer or him because he did not want to go at all. So then I said in a nice tone that she is more than welcome to knock or come in next time, so she did not have to sit in the driveway, she said yeah, no thanks. Now was she being nice? Am I taking it wrong to me if she were nice she could have said thanks, even if she never decides to come in. Then she calls my DH up to bith# about SS not having gloves or a hat on which he had his hood up and was only going from my house to her car. So did I mess up, I know I should have took the time to get gloves but he was already so upset so I sent him out to her. And why do I care that she called my DH to bitc# it just goes to show him what an awful person she is. Do you guys always put hat and gloves on going from one place to the next?? Please help me calm down. They go to court the 16th each fighting for full custody, its not like he always comes to our house with hat and gloves. Not to mention all the flea bites she has sent him here with and the pink eye on Chritmas because she did not want to take him to the hospital, so we did. She has moved 6 times and his daycare 9 times he is almost 5 and not fully potty trained and she is worried about hat and gloves or does she just want to talk to my DH. They were together 5 years never married, but they did talk about building a house on the land where we built ours. It was my DHs land to begin with. SO do you think she might be jealous???

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My BM is a crazy leech..

My BM is a crazy leech.. One time me and my SIL dropped SS2 off and she called to complain ( a week later) that he had supposedly gotten sick because SIL didn't cover his whole head and face with a blanket/ he had on hat, coat etc.... Then yesterday she called to insinuate that he had caught a virus in our house because he got a fever yesterday... He was dropped off on Sunday. Funny thing is, I ask, how is it that he always gets sick at her place but is never sick at ours???? Some Bm's are just crazy leeches and want to hold on to any excuse to keep in touch and COMPLAIN

How cares

what BM thinks. I mean really, no gloves...big deal. My SD9 gets out of the car with no hat, coat unzipped and no gloves...I don't think it is worth the fight in the driveway. And her BM is PSYCHO so if she doesn't think this is a big deal than it really is not.

I used to try

and do things "right" by BMs standards. But I realized that she will always find something wrong so my H and I now do things to piss her off. You should try it, its really fun.

You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't

With this type of BM you just can't win. EVER. So don't even try. Just do what you know is the right thing for the children, because it probably is.

I have to deal with one of these whack jobs all the time. She CONSTANTLY judges my parenting skills. Like I couldn't handle raising my OWN TWO BOYS for the past 18 years without her help (and one of them is special needs).

Gee, I would have never made it all those years without her help- THANKS BM!

One year, I was taking SD (then 14) to a play practice in the summer time. It was extremely hot. I sent her with a big jug of ice water and cool towels to keep around her neck and a spray bottle/misting fan to keep her cool. Sounds reasonable, right?

Well BM calls my DH in a PANIC to tell him to "make sure 5teens doesn't OVERDRESS SD and send her with some water."

WTF???

Overdress?? Oh yeah. In 100 degree-plus weather, I was going to send the child out in a winter coat and give her hot chocolate in a thermos to drink. Get real, whack job!

She acts like she's "Mother of the freakin year" and I'm a complete idiot. But the reality is, it's the complete and total opposite. So I have just learned to ignore the crazy woman- and laugh to myself.

"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis

5teens has it

u will never win w this type of BM. she sounds alot like my SD's BM. she said SD was sick and puking all last week but bathed her before DH picked her up on fri and sent her out w wet hair. makes sense to me...NOT. mother of the freakin year!

we steps are NOTHING to women like these. we have NO place in the kids lives according to them. and my guess is, judging from the history of her and DH, which is alot like my DH and BM, she wanted him, maybe even tried to trap him w the kid, and now she is jealous of u bc u are living the life she tried to force on DH.

just keep doing what u are for SS, have ZERO contact w BM, bc she doesnt wanna deal w u anyway and u dont wanna deal w her, and let DH deal w her.

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

LMAO!

My SS's Crazy }:) has a sticker on the back of her car that says "#1 Mom." It is a good thing that they sell those at Dollar General! At least once a month, my SS is sick. Pink eye, cold/flu, stomach flu, ears hurting and draining copious amounts of wax (yuck by the way), strep throat, you name it. She told my husband that she didn't want to "pump lots of medicine through his little body." She smokes like a chiminy around him. You will never do anything "right" in her eyes because ALL she sees is your husband. He didn't marry her, he didn't build a house with, but most importantly he didn't choose her for ANYTHING! Were they planning to have a baby or was it an Oops!? Same story with my husband's ex, she got knocked up and expected that they were going to get married because of it....Guess what. He didn't want to marry her. We were married last year and PLANNED our baby- We are due July 4th. She is just ready to explode because you took her life! I was actually told that one time! Hang in there and know that you are doing the right thing!

"What you do to children; they will do to society." ~Karl Menninger

our crazy smokes too

SD comes over smelling like smoke all the time. shes 3 and told us that momma gave her water from a bubba (BOTTLE)...AT THREE. she sleeps w her too, always has. SD has never had her own bed at BMs. i could go on and on. MOTHER OF THE YEAR.