my hate for bm grows every day! Once again she proves what a pathetic person she is!
So dh called cs to find out why bm was only paying 5 dollars a day for day care and pocketing all the money we pay her. Turns out that we had to file a modification, and they send her paper work as well.
We went to a lawyer yesterday, and since bm no longer has a job and is on disability, it turns out that we might be able to reduce the amount of child care we owe, but they will up our child support (we have 50/50) because her pathetic lazy ass doesn't have a job. So we decide that we will not file, pay the money, and then modify it as soon as ss goes to school, because hopefully bm will have a job by then.
I can not wait till the day my ss is old enough to open his mouth to say something stupid that bm has put in his head. dh and i will pull out all the paper work and prove to ss what a piece of crap mother bm has been. She was too lazy to get a job and support him, instead lives off money she steals from us, and that in fact it is DH and smnikki that have give him all he has, we supported him when he was with us and when she had him!
she called today because she got the paper work and told dh "what are you doing? You know this is going to back fire and you'll just have to pay me more money" That fuking cunt knows shes pocketing our money and is rubbing our noses in. I will have the last word though, and that fuking bitc# is going to be very regretful of doing this to dh and i
ugh, our system is so unfair!
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I feel ya
Its like a big game to these women.... breed.... live off welfare and ex.... breed more.... repeat....
SICK.
I agree
I'm dealing with the same thing. BM has been receiving a check from various sources for free money for 23 years and counting. She has two older children plus my two skids. It is frustrating! We keep documenting and listening to the crap she pulls with the skids. I feel so sorry for what they go through when they are "in her care" or lack of.
thank god
for every one else/tax payers she cant have more kids. I wish she could though so maybe she would leave us the hell alone. My dad makes me feel so much better about the situation though. He said, Karma will get her in the end...then mumbled that serenity prayer, lol. He said just take advantage of her being a baby sitter when ever you guys need since she has no problem taking him on your days!
ugh, i just wish the karma bus would run her over sooner rather than later!
Yep
BM had two kids with a drug addict who killed himself in her house. She gets $1800 a month from social security for that set of kids and their paternal grandma pays for everything. The first two children are DH's skids and she was extorting $800 a month from him for them. Plus, he had them all the time and paid for everything. DH's reasoning was that if he paid her, she'd be nicer to skids--turns out, her was right.
Unbelievable!
"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"
it pisses me off to no end
it pisses me off to no end to know that men have to pay child support but the MOther doesn't have to support their own kids. Some ppl reason that even if the mom is on welfare she is supporting them. BS!!
Stupid (our loving pet name) lives with her father, gets welfare and child support and still has no money to properly take care of the kids. Her youngest is 9 and oldest 16 so child care is not a problem for her to go to work.
I mean does she not even think about what she is going to do when the kids are grown or if something happens to her dad (house is her dad's GFs). That would scare me to no end to have no type of security for the future.
I just hope her karma train doesn't come for 10 yrs until the youngest is grown, but I hope when it comes, it doesn't slow down.
CS system is biased against the fathers....
In NYS the CS system targets GOOD dads to pay for the deadbeats. My DH has been paying CS for 13 years. We just had it reduced because SS16 now resides with us full-time but BM isn't obligated to pay us a DIME for him because supposedly she makes below the poverty level. In her case, she only took pay-stubs from ONE job and not from BOTH jobs so she was not obligated to pay us. Interestingly enough a few years back my DH switched jobs and was earning less and when he went to CS to get the order modified the judge told us that it was not the children's fault that he switched jobs and that they should not be obligated to modify their way of living because of his bad decision. So the order was not reduced and we fell seriously into arrears because his entire paycheck was going to CS! Eventually he had to find a better paying job so that he could keep up with the payments and still afford to pay a share of the bills in our home. We had NUMEROUS fights because despite paying a phenomenal amount in CS he STILL was buying the kids sneakers, clothes and school supplies because the BM was using the money on HER lifestyle and not buying anything for the children. After one too many fights he finally realized that it was NOT his obligation to buy the kids ANYTHING. And anything that he did buy ended up staying at our house so they could use it while they were with us.
In NY you pay until the age of 21 so we still have 12 years of CS payments to go. Life is a bag of tricks and I know that the Karma train is going to whack this piece of work in the butt one day. I'm very patient and will be there waiting when it hits her.
Crayon....
You know it's a darn shame. The courts don't realize how much damage they cause families with these crazy orders. BM takes cabs everywhere because she refuses to use mass transit. (guess who pays for that?) She smokes like a bat at 8.00 a pack and takes 3 week vacations to multiple destinations!! Meanwhile we can't afford to take a weekend getaway with the kids because we're too broke supporting her ass!! We can't do anything that involves spending money when SD9 comes over EOW because all our money goes to the mortgage and bills.
We too pay extra money for "Educational Expenses" because SD9 is in Catholic School. The only reason we were able get custody of SS16 is because he went truant for 60 days and ACS got involved. They told her that if she didn't hand over custody voluntarily they would remove him from the home and they would be forced to remove SD9 as well. SS16 had been begging to live with us for 2 years hence the rebellion with not going to school to get his point across.
The only reason she didn't want to give us custody was because her PAYCHECK would be affected. She didn't care that he had a better chance of graduating HS if he was with us. SS went from a ZERO average in school to an 83 average in 7 months.
BM used to take all the clothes we would buy and we would NEVER see it again! So that's why I stopped letting them take it home. OH!!! And when SS moved in? He came practically NAKED. He LITERALLY had 3 pairs of jeans, 3 tee's, 3 underwear and 3 socks. I SWEAR to you. When I asked him where were his clothes, he said that's all the clothes he owned. I felt horrible and took him shopping a week later.
Just last night he said to me..."so and so I know what I want for my birthday." (He turns 17 next week) I said "What?" He said "I'd just like some money so I can buy a few things I want." I said "Ok that shouldn't be a problem." He than said "I have everything... I don't need anything." I smiled and said "How good does it feel to be able to say that?" He smiled back and said "It's the first time in my life I can say it."
He's a really good kid. Thank GOD because it makes this SOOOO much easier.
NotSoHappy
It's so nice that you have SS... Do you think you would ever want SD? Or would BM fight you tooth and nail? How is she doing in school compared to SS?
*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***
The people who care pay.. the people who don't DON"T
my SS's BM has made a career of being in school.. of course I know why ..they reduced BM childsport to $100 a month plus $200 a month for arrears.(by the way she has $11500 in arrears) So she went and graduated as a RADTECH.. then went to work at a steakhouse. We were getting on average $17 every 2 weeks. Then we found out BM was working as a sitter for old people. Got our 1st BIG ck of $154 they got notice BM quit working there. NOW BM has quit workin altogether. Moved in with her parents (AGAIN)another one of her manic episodes has kicked in (she has gone from a suicidal, bipolar lesbian who tells SS we are liars who can't be trusted to and how do I stand myself being so sorry TO a banging down the church door..OH WE (DH and BM that does not include me cause to her I am useless) need to get along for the childs sake.Crying in the parking lot of Walmart telling everyone she is praying that my SS will get baptised and saved TOO.HE IS 8! ALL in a month)AND I just got wind she is back in school to be a surgical tech! Meanwhile we both work fulltime jobs. Raise my SS and my two Bios and she is free as a bird to do as she pleases! -IAMTHEMOM