Infuriating BM freaking subpoenaed me!
Yup. I've been subpoenaed as a witness for Infuriating BM in her obscene attempt to reduce my husband's parenting time and to increase the amount of child support she receives.
Realistically, I would have been there anyway, but now I can't be in the courtroom because I *might* be called as a witness. I suspect it's more of an intimidation tactic than anything else, but it's still a thing. I can't imagine I would have anything to say that would benefit her.
Interestingly enough, the subpoena came to me at home, and DH was the one actually served.
He feels like a total jerk for getting me involved in this, and of course, remains terrified that he will lose 52 days a year with his children, especially now that SS is not only no longer refusing visits, but also behaving almost normally when at our house.
The only joy I'm getting out of any of this is when I think about the amount of money she's got to be paying her attorney. Is that wrong? I'm sure she's making $250 an hour--minimum--and she's driving more than an hour to even represent BM at this point (she moved out of the area).
But I'll be honest, I'm shaking a little, and I'm on the verge of tears. I've never been subpoenaed before, and I certainly don't want to hurt DH in any way. And honestly, I'm so tired of BM and her BS.
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Most likely, she only
Most likely, she only supoenaed you to keep you out of the court room.
I was used as a witness. It
I was used as a witness. It didn't help BM at all. As long as your DH is telling the truth and hasn't done anything wrong things should be okay. They used me as kind of as a fact checker for DH to see if his versions of what happened between him and BM were the same as mine.
Sounds like a tactic to keep
Sounds like a tactic to keep you out of the courtroom.
However, if you are called? Answer any questions from her attortney with as few words as possible. Keep your answers short no matter what. The more you explain, the more they try to twist your words.
If his attorney questions you, you can be less guarded but best to stick to the same rule of thumb. Yes. No. I don't know.
She is heavy into PA, so much
She is heavy into PA, so much so that SS6 was refusing visits for about 6 months while she refused to agree on a therapist. As a result of that, she has concluded that DH cannot meet SS's emotional needs and should have EOWE visitation only, a change which would result in DH being required to pay more in CS.
For the record, the kid is visiting now--including for extended visits (we just did 8 days)--without an issue.
I wish I could! He's now a
I wish I could! He's now a named party in the litigation, so he can't be excluded. He has filed for temporary custody of the skids because BM is deploying this summer.
Agree with the others, she's
Agree with the others, she's just keeping you out of the courtroom so your dh has to go in alone.
Besides, if you get called to the stand you can make me look like an assh0le }:)
Do you have your own attorney
Do you have your own attorney to look after your interests? That would be a great start. Regardless of how much she is paying her attorney, and you can't control that, you should worry about how much you will have to give up of your pay if the court adds your income to your husband in calculation of child support. And should your husband have to pay child support for the days his child is actually in his custody because he will have expenses during those times. I am no lawyer and these are just questions that hit me while reading your post.
DH's lawyer did this to BM
DH's lawyer did this to BM husband. He was so livid he cussed him out on the court house after not being called to testify.
Can you ask the courts for
Can you ask the courts for payment of lost wages if they don't call you?
I mean you have to be there and if it's just a tactic to keep you out of the courtroom they should have to pay for it. How much in lost wages is it costing you to go to court?