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Submitted by supermom5 on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 12:16pm

Why can't anyone understand how I feel? It really gets frustrating. Last night, BD9 and SD10 wanted to spend the night with my mom. It was going to be a "girls night." (well, that what my girls wanted) DH and I go to drop off SD10 and BD9 and we go inside for a minute to visit. (SS5 is already mad because he wants to stay and I told him "no.") We get in the car to leave (being there for only about 15 mins)and SS5 is pulling his crap. (the sad face and almost going to cry act) My mom says, "Awe you can stay if it's alright with momma and daddy." Before I get a word in DH says, "Get out SS5 you can stay." And of course the fake tears and whining disappear in no time. I said, "The girls are going to get upset because they wanted a girl's night with grandma." He said, "I don't care, they are always mean to him, I think it's funny to make them mad." I didn't say a word, that was wrong. He is only making it worse for the girls in "disliking" him. Which I've told him that is just how brother and sisters act in the first place with their siblings. Point being, I am so sick of SS5 getting his way when he throws a little whining fit. It always happens no matter what it is (the situation) and when he isn't whining he still has to be center of attention! If one of the other kids is being talked to by someone he has to get in on it or ask what about me? No one else can see this..everyone thinks he is just so darn cute. He is almost 6 and the teachers at the school even still pick him up and hold him. This is ridiculous, I think. He isn't happy unless full attention is on him! So frustrated!

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Submitted by oldone on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 12:25pm

What a little wuss your DH is raising. He's going to be so picked on as he ages.

Can't you tell your mother to act right?

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Submitted by supermom5 on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 12:39pm

I've told him about he has to stop giving in on him with every whimper. All I get is, "you need to stop being so hateful, that's why he don't like you. no one else has a problem with him but you." All my BS13 friends come over and he will be playing with them and it pisses my son off. But everyone on this entire earth thinks he such a "cool kid." It's the center of attention thing!! No matter where we are he has to have it, no one can see it! I had a conversation with my mom on the phone this morning about it, and she told me to stop acting like that it wasn't a big deal that he stayed the night, he's been such a good boy. Sure he has...I'm sure she has given in to his every want. The girls had there own thing that they were doing last night and he started to feel bad cause he didn't have anything to do, what does my mom do..here play on my phone (which normally she doesn't allow). Once again, he whined and got something out of it. I told her, you see what you just did? She says, I am making a big deal out of nothing!

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 1:08pm

Ewww! What a spoilt brat!
Do you have the funds to take the girls away on their own? Spa day? Manicures? Camping in a cabin somewhere?

I would not say one thing to the boy. Totally ignore him. And when he whines walk away. I am amazed the teachers picking him up in school. Are we talking kindergarten or preschool? Private or public school?

Start taking the girls and your son out for more 'senior' activities that SS5 is too short for... rock climbing walls? When your DH tells you how unfair you are you can tell him this .. "I am not his mother. It is not my job to love him. But it is my job to make sure the kids have activities that are age appropriate."

And I would suggest DH gets his son involved in Cub Scouts. This will give him some 1:1 time with his son and also encourage his son to get along without his siblings. And here is the bonus for you ... if he sticks at it he will be camping every weekend! My SS followed all the way through form cub scouts and made Eagle Scout 2 years ago. Do you know how many Presidents are/were Eagle Scouts? How many Senators? Leaders of businesses? This will be the making of your SS. And the other boys will not put up with the whining.

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Submitted by supermom5 on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 5:59pm

Thanks ladies! I'm going to definitely look into the scout thing Smile It feels great to vent!

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Submitted by angbgood on Sat, 01/19/2013 - 6:02pm

i have a SS10 who still acts like a spoiled brat sometime they out grow of it sometimes not and i get fn annoyed by his whining and crying for what he wants and its been like that nothing has changed but i have learned to ignore him when he acts like this and i just walk away eventually he stops, but no your not acting wrong kids know that if they cried in the past and got what they wanted then it will work over and over again they just don't get that its not the way to do things. but def get him into something he can make friends so he's out of your hair..good luck