Please don't just turn up again, or keep contacting ackland on my time with him. I'll buy him enough teddies he feels comfortable, we will discuss it, if I even can . But it's  like you dance to his every tune or he does you, so he doesn't have to even mention anything to me! it's  the night before my daughters birthday!! either , you're enabling ackland to be supersentive and ott at nearly 11/High school or you didn't care. It's not acceptable to just turn up without notice, in the throes of a celebration evening. How would you like it if I turned up on your doorstep with his cushion from here on a celebration night   wouldnt happen as you've made sure he's so emeshed with you.  I totally understand what you are trying to do now, get rid of me as you've replaced your childcare with your partner,  but at last I have the means and the will to address what you are doing, and if you don't want to respect my boundaries in the meantime I will enforce them myself by confiscating the phone 

mediation next. And I didn't censor his name as I'm so past caring. Hell still need his butt wiping when he's 25 at this rate, as long as it doesn't interfere with dd birthday, like she interfered with her birth and every other effin milestone we should enjoy