Ss 10 has been on holiday a week with bm and her bf. Didn't bother to contact his dad once,( despite when we took him away sneaking into toilet at meal times for lengthy calls with bm)  my husband has been messaging him last 2 nights, and getting disheartened by the one word answers so I said stop bothering.

Anyways, when they booked this holiday it messed up the calendar. We should see him Saturday, but it was assumed without discussion that it would change to Sunday. We'll no, absolutely not. We are heading to a joint children's party to which over 5s are not invited, even the kids eldest half brother is sitting it out at a friend's! Bm was advised months ago. Lo and behold last night Ss10 texts see you Sunday. Email sent to bm that we had discussed this and no he won't. She says But I had to change this due to our flight and he's missed you so much. Oh yes you can sure tell that by the amount of contact. So right now it's a stand off, husband wants to see his ungrateful uncaring kid of course, now the magic he missed you has been thrown in, bm wants the day to unpack no doubt, and I dnt want him here running riot while we get ready for the party for all of an hour or two