FMIL isn't thrilled with me because she's not thrilled with my interracial relationship with her son. She's nice to me in person, but then she'll call BF (not knowing I'm sitting in the car next to him and I can hear everything) and I hear a different story...

"I don't approve of this."
"You're not spending all of your money on HER are you?"
"She's not you 'type'-what made you want to date her?"...blah blah blah...

MY FIL was the most awesome father in law to ever have. Words could not describe him, sadly he passed away a few months ago.

NOW my husbands stepdad... hahahhahhahaha. We have gotten into some serious bitch fights. He likes to hang out with the guy who allegedly molested sd. Then has BM and her boyfriend over to his house for a swim and bbq. This same BM who put DH through hell. Her boyfriend who attacked me at a walmart and says horrible things about my children ( the sfil's grandkids). Right after my husbands father died his stepdad came banging on our door about some alleged money we owed home and said he doesnt care his dad died. So my step father in law DO NOT AND WILL NOT ever be around eachother again. Unless he wants a real ass kicking.

My MIL lied to my Husband her son for 20 years about my husbands father. She told him his father didnt want him, gave up custody, was this horrible guy. Hubby didnt see his father since he was 6 because of this. At 26 he found his father. Found out his real dad had custody, mom abducted my husband as a child. His biodad searched forever for him, had proof of PI reports, newspaper ads, everything. So we dont really speak to her either.

MY BIL slept with BM. yes he slept with his brothers first wife. Borrowed thousands of dollars from us. Tried saying I was made for him :jawdrop: but some how I ended up with his brother. After all that we forgave him, and now his new girlfriend will not let him " come play at our house anymore" because she is jealous of his nieces ( my kids), they take to much time from her. So we havent talked to him in awhile either.

My husbands grandparents (moms side) have nothing to do with the same people we dont so we get along great

His Biodads family is very close to us now as well.

Sorry it was so long just tried to give some back info..lol

We "fake" get along. They pretend to like me and I pretend to believe it. It's excruciating for me to have to be around them! I cant STAND how they coddle and favor SS. And actually, my FIL passed away a couple years ago - which sux cuz he's the only one I really liked! I know he genuinely liked me. Now I'm just stuck with MIL and SIL, who like yours is just whacko and there's way too much to go into to explain it. To me, MIL is really the SM figure to SS and "raises" SS with my DH during visits. I'm not included in any way, and no longer have any desire to be. DH coordinates everything with his mother regarding SS, and MIL takes every chance she gets to chastise and judge ME for that. If she ever heard of "butting out" maybe things might be different? But nope - so she can have the job cuz I dont want it!

I hate to admit it to anyone, but I just look forward to when MIL goes to join her husband in the great beyond. Bummer is, her own mother lived to 99.5! And MIL is only 70...so it could be a WHILE. Hell I'm 40? I'LL be old by the time she kicks it!!

I have zero relationship with my MIL - After DH & I got together she instantly loved the ex whom she had always hated. She helped convince my SS who was 12 at the time to go live with him mom by telling him that DH & I told her that she would never see him again if he didn't. Basically did everything in her power to wreck her son's relationship with his son - which worked. We've only had a few run ins with her since we got married - basically she's bent she didn't get invited - oh well. And after the last one - DH having emergency surgery - a completely blocked atery in his heart and calling her at his request. Why oh why did I even call her? I asked her not to come to the hospital the next day so DH & I could talk to the doctor alone in ICU - she called DH and tried telling him that I was keeping her away from him - on the drive home from the hospital - I thought DH was going to blow a gasket - He finally told her how it was - not a peep since. She's never seen our DS who is 2.5 and probably will never see him or the little one due in 8 weeks. My FIL basically ignores me - which is fine - he's not a bad guy - just really a loner. He will come and see DS when he's in town - he lives about an hour away but we rarely see him.
We have pretty much zero contact with any of DH 3 sisters unless they are calling to have DH check on his dad. I'm sure they are nice but DH never really had a relationship with the younger 2 - he was 20 plus when they were born and his other sister - is a whole other post but she puts some of the BMs on her to shame with her antics over her niece and nephew.

FMIL is fine. Ok no she's not. She lives with us!!!SO's dad died when he was younger so since then MIL can not live by herself. She is rude and just full of piss and vinegar. She doesn’t buy groceries, she doesn’t cook. Between he and I we do all the cooking. Then she will complain if it is to spicy or whatever. She doesn't do anything. I cant even stand to be around her anymore. I cant stand hearing her voice. She likes to tell us how to parent SD. And she is always MAD!. If we go anywhere and don't invite her she throws a fit. I really can't take it.

i get along great with mil & sil when we're together (dh's dad passed away a very long time ago - i never met him)

but the relationship mil carries on with bm sends dh & i thru the roof....

and, yes gps are supposed to be proud of their gkids, but my mil just short of makes me want to puke they way she goes on & on & on & on about how perfect her "liar/stealer/manipulator" gd is..ugh!

and mil refuses to make plans thru adults, has always called skids when they were at bms and made plans w/skids and we would find out thru skids ~~ even of plans were made for our visitation days.

i better stop now.... so i guess it's a love/hate relationship....

Ug my IL are all effed up for the most part! All the male in laws are great, have pulled their heads outta their asses and straightened out. Its the female in laws who are cluelesss! (FIL is no longer married to MIL hmmm perhaps cuz she was dragging him down?!) I'm so lucky my DH turned out so well. He is the highest functioning one of them all. They all think we are rich (duh, it's because we know how to live within our means and know what our financial obligations are!) They are (sorry to say it) but white-trash of the worst kind! MIL fried her brain on drugs and expects DH to support her now. YOU MADE YOUR BED, NOW LAY IN IT! I get mad at DH because he enables her needy behavior all the time and has gone as far as buying her a motorhome, paid her registration on her vehicle, supported her for many years by paying her to watch our kids, gives her loans that are never paid back, cash to do her X-mas shopping etc. etc. Maybe he is a better person than I am but if my Mom was strung out my entire adolescent life and I had to squat in apartments, do her paper route (and not get paid for it) and miss school so I could work and support myself because she couldn't . . . . I would not be willing to support her either!!!

I get along well, but they annoy the hell out of me with the things they do and say. I put on a good show only for my husband. Those are his parents and he loves them and I want a peaceful family. I won't tolerate ignorance, but I bite my tongue and when enough is enough..i'll say something.

NO I dont get along with my inlaws at all. Here is only a few reasons for both the ex and current inlaws:

1. Walked into my home (not a home that I shared with dh) and called me names in front of my bio kids.
2. mother inlaw wore black to my wedding.
3. picked up the ss's when they were ages 6 and 8 yrs. old from the back yard without me knowing, calls to police etc. before we could find them.
4. went into our home when we were at a court custody hearing with BM on custody issues and "stold" fish out of the ss's fish tank - they ended up dead. "because" bio mom called and told them that she was punishing ss's for lies they told the GAL.
5. walked into our home w/o permission and opened up my daughter's door 8 at the time and began to yell, swear and call her names bc ss had told her that bd had threw a backpack at him; no bruises but 8yrs old bd had a grapefruit size bruise from his boots when he kicked her.
6. refused to put the house purchase in writing after we have been paying for it for the past 12 years including taxes, insurance and payments to the bank along with the payment each month to them just short of $1000.00 per month.
7. Still has BF/BM wedding pictures up in their home but not DH/and mine.
8. Gave 15 yr. old snowwhite pj's for christmas 3 sizes small, got mad when she would not try them on they are pj's and she is 15 does not need to be prancing around in front of everyone. what is wrong with you people.
9. testified in court that I am abusive because I whisper in the kids ears when they get in trouble. (Maybe I should just tell them to stop what ever the ***** they are doing by yelling at them across the room)
10. and the end all - they both broke a court order for Bm. We had gone to court they were in the court room and heard the judges order. Bm had them pick up and bring ss to our home and when they got there they refused to drop ss off per the court order, because they did not agree to what the GAL and Judge had determined.

ex inlaws:
1. continue to put the names and pictures of the kids in the paper each year after his death even though the kids have requested for them not to.
2. Took me to court for 50/50 placement and CHILD SUPPORT after the death of the kids dad. (I had primary placement and do not have any type of record that would place the kids in danger, do not use drugs and only drink on special occassions)
3. asked the kids to walk in the middle of winter for the funeral instead of calling me to make arrangements to pick up the kids.
4. swore at me and called me names until my hubby got on the phone and over heard how they spoke to me and then he informed them that I was no longer married to their son and as his wife I would no longer be talked to in such a manner, and if they did not stop that he would see to it that they were charges for violation of phone rules.
5. They picked up my kids from school one day and I could not find them for over 4 hours, when they brought the kids home they tried to tell the officer that I was unfit because a "real" mother would have know where her kids were and would not have expected them to walk home from school placing them in such a dangerous situation.
6. Showed up at my 2nd wedding. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH because it was an activity that the kids were in and they have a right to be involved in their grandkids lives.
7. When each of the kids were born they showed up at the hospital with a death insurance policy for the kid, just in case something would happen then I would not have to worry about anything.

enough said!!!!!!!!!!

I only have a Mil, and Sil....DH's father passed away when he was a child. Mil has never like me because I am shy so I'm not real talkative at first and when she first met she took it personally I guess. Anyways she was always talking crap about me(she talks crap about everyone usually while drunk) to the kids and they actually defended me to her, and she later apologized to me after the children had to ask her to stop being mean, geez. Sil is okay, she's always been nice to me. We all pretend to be like each other now and don't see each other often, thank God.

I like my BF's brothers....I have tried very hard to like his mother, but every time I have come to the point where I can get over the last thing she said/did against me.... something new comes up. So I will fake it for his sake and for the kids' sake. I am tired of drama.... especially now that I'm pregnant. I honestly don't care if she likes me or not.... She doesn't like me because she thinks he ought to go back to his ex for the kids' sake - no matter how miserable that would make him, his ex AND the kids!!!!!!!!!

I have given mine 3 chances...no more ever!

1.orig she was "mustakenly" calling me by either my DHs ex-witch's ñame or ex-girlfiend...she thought it was funny and DH would tell me it was "no big deal"....so I told DH I would start calling her husband (DHs sdad) by his BIO dad's name...as if it wasn't bad enough she always tales about ex-witch, blah, blah...
2.I gave birth, she came to our house at MY expense and constantly hatrassed me about his daughter ...would go into the guestroom all day, lock the door and badmouth me to her family on MY phone, MY house, etc (I paid all bills) and this within a day of me being home w/a c-section! All i remember was crying while she treated me like shit...while i rocked my baby.
3.i gave her another chance to make it up 6mos ago and well, she made our life hell! Thankfully this 3rd time DH realized what a witch she truly is.

I believe she hated me because I come from a bigger class family...period. She's as dumb a woman as I have ever met...she is 25yrs younger than my grandmother and can't seem to be able to do much...one of these women who gets a letter and can't even understand it even though she can read...

Yeah, it was inlaw issues that brought me here. DH's 3 sisters refused to accept our marriage, led by the oldest who had been our friend! But she was really jealous when we got married because she didn't even have a BF at the time and had been divorced a LONG time. She sucked up to BM (although she told DH to divorce her and had never liked her). One of my SILS TURNED HER BACK ON ME one week after our wedding in public, after hugging and greeting DH. They are all control freak--psychos. Fortunately DH stuck up for me and 3 years later, they are fine. Although--tee hee--the oldest in now in the doghouse for DUI--her two sisters are scapegoating her now. It's one of those families where someone is always the "problem" to make the others feel better. Oddly, MIL ADORES me. Thankfully we live far away from them.

Oh you guys so sorry to hear all the inlaw horror stories. I feel for all of you really i do and it just adds to the skids for no reason!

My inlaws are so great they buy us season passes to a nearby theme park every year. They have paid for a cabin for us to be close to them during christmas and bought me a chi with 75 extra dollars too. They love me and my kids. My MIL and SIL both told me that after bm they are so thankful dh found me! MIl also told me that I am so good to the boys and thanks me for that. they also never take sides if dh and I have a fight, they help us through it.

I love them so much!

I while back I sent her an email telling her how much I appreciate her not being one of those in laws. I did b/c there was a thread about all the crap other peoples in laws have done to them and realized how wonderful mine are.

I do hope that things get better for everyone with their in laws.

I get along fine with my ILs. I like them well enough. I don't respect them but I like them.

FIL: Nice guy. Wanna be farmer who has bankrupted the family a couple of times persuing his dreams of an agricultural empire. Fortuneately all of the farms hve now been foreclosed and FIL has qualified for SS Disability after three hip replacements, a quad bypass and a stroke so there should be no more money thrown in to a bottomless hole in the dirt.

MIL: Nice lady. Has difficulty understanding why the bank takes your home when you don't pay your mortgage payment. Retired from the State when she was 40 after 20yrs of service and cashed out her retirement. Burned through her retirement money in 2 years taking vacations and going to casinos. Stays bitter that FIL is retired (on disability) while she is having to work after "retiring" from the state nearly 20 years ago.

BIL1: Used to be a nice guy. Used to be very close to his sister (my wife) but has refused to speak to her in years at the insistance of his hag heffer of a wife. They still make snarky comments about my wife being a single teen mom at 16. These people don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but they are "superior" to my wife because they only conceived their first child out of wedlock but did not have her out of wedlock. For some reason the fact that they were in their mid 20s and not teens is some point of superiority over my wife.

BIL2: Great guy. Three tour combat veteran (2 in Afghanistan, 1 in Iraq). Big hearted as can be. Has loaned over $60,000 to his parents, brother(BIL1)and youngest sister (SIL) and not seen a dime in return. When I bring this up at family gatherings I really get shunned. He is not the sharpest tool in the shed when it comes to making financial decisions but I have all the time in the world for him and respect him incredibly.

SIL: Nice young lady. We were her guardians for a year between 17 and 18. My ILs agreed to sign the papers to let her graduate HS a year early when the state lowered the graduation requirements in order to save money. Against our (my wife and I) very vocal protests. If there is anyone on this planet who needed as much time in HS as possible to mature it is my SIL.

To try to mitigate the consequences of this decision we offered to have her move in with us and we would pay for college if she watched our kid (my SS) after school, did some basic house work and watered and mowed the lawn. At the time we were paying $400/mo in after school care, $240/mo in lawn care. We used the money to pay for college for her. She lived with us for a year and we paid for school. She kept a 3.0 GPA because my wife would not let her skip class, made her do all of her homework and would not let her turn in crap on research paper assignements. They would battle over SIL having to edit her papers until they were indicative of college level work. To make sure she could schlep the kid around and make it to class we bought her a car.

After a year she could not live without her BF and returned to the land of bad decisions (with the car). She ended up having a child with BF out-of-wedlock so the state would pay for the hospital costs and eventually married her BF shortly before her welfare benefits ran out. She did enroll in the local college but has not yet graduated and has racked up ~$50,000 in school loans. If she would have stayed with us she would have graduated with her BS 3yrs ago owing nothing.

With the exception of BIL2 all of my ILs consider my wife to be the 16yo single mom she was and us to be the stupid city relatives.

They don't recognize or comprehend my wife's accomplishments. Yes she was a 16yo single mom. However, she went on to graduate with her HS class with honors with a baby, a BS with honors, an MBA with honors, became a CPA, has a successful career, raised a HS graduate child (and is still supporting and guiding him to viable adulthood), and has a 16yr marriage.

For some reason my wife remains an embarrassment to her family.

She is the only person of quality (other than BIL2) in her family.

My ILs are not comfortable with my family at all. Mom and dad are pretty successful and educated, my brother and his family are successful and educated and my wife and I are successful and educated. My ILs have never commented but it is obviouse when we all get together that they are very uncomfortable around my family.

My parents and family have never been anything but polite to my ILs. They consider that stuck up and fake. Usually several months after a visit (us there or them here) one of them will comment in conversation with my wife about my family.

They do comment on our clothes when we visit them "Why would you spend that much money of clothes?", the comment on our cars and our house when they visit "You don't need ......". We buy quality and keep it for a long time. They buy endless streams of crap and spend far more on it than we do the nice stuff. When you look at the time value of money.

I actually did a spreadsheet showing how and why it is cheaper to buy a new $30,000+/- farm truck every ~7 years than to by a stream of ~$3000 farm trucks for the same seven years. The curve showed that at the time it was ~20% cheaper to buy a new truck and maintain it than buy junkers, not care for them, repair major failures then junk them every 6-18months.

When my SIL lived with us she refused to get the oil changed in the Jeep Cherokee we bought her. "My dad says you only have to change your oil every x miles and that getting it changed at Jiffy Lube is a waste of money and that you should change your oil yourself." That is all well and good if he would actually change his oil.

We made SIL take the Jeep with her when she left because I did not want it blowing up while I owned after she did not change the oil for a year.

Sorry again for the long IL rant.

Best regards.

Lived with my XMIL--wow that was a treat!! Thankfully I had a 2-story home with my own bathroom upstairs so I didnt really need to be downstairs for anything but meals and laundry and cleaning. And she couldnt climb the stairs >:)

I am still the favorite DIL---XFIL and SMIL love me to bits. They say x idiot hasnt brought any of his women to meet them since we split up. FOund that hard to believe but they said thy wouldnt accept her no mAtter what Supposed F-inlaws are country and here blood is thicker than ater and because i expect his kids not to act like cave kids they are all peeved with me. Well, at least I'm not living in a bug, staph, critter infested home on their property (that'd be THEIR kid)

It has been a while since I have stopped by but the new things that I have to add about Inlaws are that they

1. lent a $40,000 plus vehicle to ss16 without either BF/BM or my SM permission or knowledge.
2. SS16 was grounded from our family "vehicle" that is seen as his car for issues earlier in the week.
3. SS16 lied to officers at the request of FIL when vehicle was wrecked.
4. FIL and MIL did not contact BF/BM or myself SM when the accident happened.
5. Per both officers on the scene FIL attempted to interferre and became very upset when officials began to attempt to transport the 4 teenagers by ambulance to the hospital (state law that a child 16 and under without parental contact my be transported)
6. FIL knows the law because he is an ex cop and was also at one time an EMT (which law also states that transport MUST happen)
7. FIL demanded that ss16 be released into his care without going to hospital.
8. SS16 was kept overnight at the hospital for observation - 3 other teens were released with minor bruises and such.
9. FIL and MIL did not attempt to even contact BF or myself.
10. Hospital placed a sign on the door to limit contact and all visitors must check with hospital staff at the descretion of police officials prior to enterance. FIL walks into and makes contact with SS16 without permission of police, hospital staff or parent.

1. court ordered visitation for BF to have contact everyother weekend with BM dropping off ss14 at FIL's home for BF to pick up for scheduled visitation. - MIL seen with ss14 on a tractor at bottom of driveway, instead of allowing ss14 to come with BF, MIL drives away with ss14.
2. FIL blocking driveway with full size pick up truck, refuses to allow ss14 go with BF for visitation.
(BF had spoken to GAL within the hour preceeding scheduled pickup, BM and FIL told by GAL that ss14 was to go for visitation, no exceptions)
3. FIL claims that BF is drunk, without seeing him, claim that he "sounds drunk" BF made statement on answering machine of home phone that they were to send SS14 out. THey refused - because he "sounds drunk" even though GAL had just spoken with BF for over an hour attempting to get visitation. (we also made a police report of their claim, BF blows nothing so FU MIL/FIL, who are so full of shit) They still refuse to allow visitation claiming that ss14 is scared.
4. FIL/MIL take ss14 to the high school football game where SS16 is playing in the band. SS16 not allowed to make contact with ss14.
5. BF 2nd monthly attempted visit - leaves phone message for pick up and no one returns the call and no one appears to be home at the residence.

ex inlaws -
20 year old daughter decides to change her last name from her biological father's last name to my her biological mother's name which I continue to use. She had not seen her BF for the last 2plus years of his life and he refused to attend therapy (court ordered) in order to regain visitation.
Exlaws decided to disown her and attempted to scare her into keeping his name by claiming that they will take her out of their will and that if they find out that she is a part of or that she encourages her younger sibling to change thier name they will also be removed. (just made her want to do it more, she was old enough to know what things were like when he was alive, not good) I can clearly understand why they would be concerned or upset, but they clearly do not know her very well or else they would know that making that sort of threat would just push her into the decision further. Too bad that they will also be missing out on their brand new great grand child and all of the things involving the kids because they are too worried about themselves to understand that the kids are attempting to heal from very upsetting events in their lives.

sorry so long - hope that it encourages other to know that they are not alone.

Oh dear. Welcome to the club. FMIL and BM are just about equal in my eyes. They are the same person I think. NUTJOBS!

Fil is a saint. I fell in love w him before dh. Ha ha he treats his wife with the utmost care and respect. It's wonderful to see. Married sixty years.
Mil is a princess. Nice, rapidly progressing alzheimers is taking over. We see them several weeks a year. She drives everyone nuts because she's simply helpless. But they adore me and the smile I brought to their sons face.
Sil is great. Love her. Mil and fill treat her dh like dirt but she tolerates them fine.
Bil is an odd duck. Nice enough but we don't see them much. They're the kind of parents who'll put eighty yr old parents on the floor and take their bed for two and four year old kids...

Xfil and xmil are kind. Opinionated belgians but always loved me and have told xh new girlfriends and wife I'll always be the one for him. I still send holiday cards. Introduced dh to them at kids grad parties.
Several x sil and bils all are fine and civil and kind I'f we see each other.