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Completely off topic - but what the F am I thinking??

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Submitted by Stick on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 6:35pm

My husband travels for a living. He has been gone since July 7th.

I took SD up to see her daddy this week because he was at a city that is only a 4 hour drive. We are here from today until Sunday. We spent today doing some sightseeing and are now back at the hotel. DH had to go to work tonight.

My Vent - I have never been as disgusted / discouraged as I was yesterday

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Submitted by Stick on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 9:35am

I feel that I have a right to post this, as I was in the thick of it yesterday.

To borrow my take on a context from JoJo....
There are bad fathers
There are definitely bad bio moms, eh?
But .. THERE ARE ALSO BAD STEP PARENTS.
Making someone a member of Steptalk does not guarantee that they are, indeed, good stepparents whose advice should be followed blindly.

I don't want to get into the whole debate of vent versus spewing venom. Or the why it is good to debate. We all have talked that one to death - literally.

Need opinions please!

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Submitted by Stick on Fri, 08/07/2009 - 5:29pm

I know this isn't major and not anything completely horrible, but I just wanted some input from you all.

BM gets to see her daughter (my SD) 1 night a week. Over the Summer it is Friday nights. SD is 15 going on 16. She doesn't really enjoy these visits.

The thing is, BM barely has a plan for what to do with SD on those nights. It was like this for a very long time and then SD counselor and DH both told BM that she needs to make the most of this time with her daughter. She gets 1 night a week so they should do SOMETHING together.

Narcissistic Parents (and Note to 2Bloved)

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Submitted by Stick on Tue, 08/04/2009 - 5:18pm

OK I know I'm not a psychiatrist! Shoot, I never even went to College!! Wink

But I've always been interested in motivations and emotions. Since I'm going through so many things with Stepdaughter, I have been searching the internet to find out what I think is up with BM.

And here it is...

BM is a Narcissistic Parent.

A Different Take on Guilt

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 08/01/2009 - 9:56am

I wrote this originally in response to Sebbie's blog about the article and "emotional adultery". And while that article prompted me to write this, I didn't think it was correct to put it under that blog. I didn't want to take away from the article and what it could do for others.

But here's my take on a word that I see at LEAST 1x per day on this site..

Met with SD's counselor today

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Submitted by Stick on Thu, 07/30/2009 - 8:47pm

SD will be starting counseling sessions soon with her BM. SD has said she doesn't want any relationship with her mom, but counselor thinks she wants something, just is not sure what. I met with the counselor to see where this is going and what to do. What are we looking at?

It's an unknown. The relationship depends on what SD is capable of (as far as forgiveness and maturity), as well as what BM is capable of (as far as admitting she did some wrong, and actually growing up finally).

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