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Submitted by Stick on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 10:58am

Of course I feel that BioMom is crazy, stupid and selfish (that's why I'm here!!). However, I think that some of the stuff she does is not about ME, it's about HER. She'd be crazy, stupid and selfish whether I am in the picture or not! She'd be crazy, stupid and selfish, pulling all of the same crap if my DH were still single, or if he were married to someone else - anyone else for that matter. Because the world OWES her!! If I were a model maybe she'd be crazier, but I don't think she can get much more stupid!

OT - how did you pick your own screen name?

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Submitted by Stick on Wed, 05/27/2009 - 6:54pm

We all have our faves for Skiddles or DH or the most names I've seen flown around and contested are for all the ex's in our lives...BUT how did you all come to pick out your own name? When I was (a lot) younger, I was much thinner and a very good friend of mine used to call me "Stick" and that's how I picked! Just something different and light...

Oh and one more thing!!

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 05/23/2009 - 5:32pm

Girls (and guy steps) - if there are any of you out there who ARE NOT getting the support of your new spouse - thats where you need to start... Start by getting them on your side. They married YOU and brought you into this situation. If you have the support of your spouse, then the EX - as much of a trouble, or nuisance that they are, and the Step kids - as much of a pain as they can be.... all of that will be easier to take and will be resolved, if you can get your SPOUSE the biological parent / significant other of the one on the outside - on YOUR side.

I don't want to get beat up for this one!!

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 05/23/2009 - 5:25pm

I'm having a few margarita's here and hope you are all enjoying somewhat of an okay or great Memorial Day Weekend! I think the thing that we all need to agree on is not to demonize or hurt each other. So some of you get along with Bio Mom's and can actually feel her pain??? Good for you!! And some of you need to vent before you cut Bio mom's head off with a dull rusty butterknife?? Good for you too! All are welcome here.

OK here's another one for you!

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Submitted by Stick on Wed, 05/20/2009 - 9:21pm

Do any of you have issues where the SD does NOT want to see BM at all? Does not want to spend any time with her and cries if she has to? SD has serious issues with BM, does not like her as a person. She is just like her daddy (my H!). So while I can see her point, H and I still have to make her see BM and have a relationship with her. We will not hurt that relationship and will try to just be there for SD as much as we can. BM is already hurting herself a lot . Anyone else going through this??

Ugh I am so nervous right now

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Submitted by Stick on Wed, 05/20/2009 - 9:01pm

I hate what my DH is going through. SD has come to live with us, and this has affected H and myself and our careers. So we have decided to go after BM for child support. But he's on the phone with her right now and just by his conversation I can tell that she is fighting him on everything - including SD's health insurance, which is the absolute BEST health insurance we can get. One monthly payment and no co-pays - for doctor visits, or prescriptions or anything!! You can't get better than that! I hate this feeling and I hate that she doesn't want to pay.

Child support from BM??

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Submitted by Stick on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 7:08pm

Has anyone gone after BM for child support? DH and I have custody and while we can mostly afford SD, it irks me to no end that BM does not have to pay for health insurance, or anything real about bringing a child up. She sincerely asked DH if he could consider the fact that she buys clothes for SD once in a while as her contribution to the upbringing of child!! If it was that easy - we'd all be great supporters, no???

Help!

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Submitted by Stick on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 9:57pm

Hi there... I'm not completely new here, but this is my first time writing a blog. Does anyone have the problem where H does not want to confront the ex because of the affect on SD? My husband and I have a great relationship, but we are carrying all of BM responsibilities. Counselor told us we need to assert our rights for our own relationship good, if just to make BM take care of her own commitments, but H keeps stalling. He says it's money or that SD could hear it from BM and BM family - which is true, unfortunately.

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