Sad to say that the other night, we were approached for advice by someone DH and I know slightly. In other words, this person knows that we are a blended family and is aware of some of the challenges we face.

He is thinking of leaving. They don't fight, per se, and they agree on parenting issues involving their children. They simply exisist as roommates or business partners; there is no physicality or even affection, and there hasn't been for some time. They have been to counseling and no changes have occurred that are satisfactory to either.

I am totally procrastinating the chore of going into the twins' room to organize and purge. I told them twice before they left to go back with BM that they needed to do so themselves...and that if they didn't finish, I would be finishing the job for them, and they may not be happy with how I did it...needless to say they did not complete the task. DS and DD did their own rooms yesterday; DD asked for minimal help from me and DS was thorough- done in an hour. His room looks great and he- gasp- knows where his belongings are and has a system!

Just for kicks and giggles I looked through SSs' folders. The SS who currently has more of an attitude- coerces his brother into breaking out of BM's windows so they can run away, glares when he gets in trouble, etc....has been working on Venn diagrams. The diagram he brought home compares two fairy tales which BOTH involve an evil stepmother. I would love to be a fly on the wall of his brain when he's reading and processing these stories- I wonder if he's comparing me to them?

After being involved in the drama (to certainly no difference in outcomes) for years now, my DH, in an effort to put some space between us and Trashionista BM, has asked that I no longer be involved. He doesn't plan on sharing the day-to-day nonsense, the nasty texts, the ridiculous e-mails, etc. Obviously he will share things with me that affect me or my kids directly like scheduling and money.