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Submitted by kaffonseca on Tue, 06/09/2009 - 9:53am

Well FH treated me like a complete jerk yesterday..he was at work..but he couldn't even call me on his lunch break, I was very hurt and crying all day after he "dumped me". He went to lunch with his coworker..I don't know..I'm the type of person that I would make it a priority and have taken lunch by myself to call the other person. But I realize that men don't deal with confrontation or stress the same way women do. I have learned that over and over so many times.

It came to this - he "cheated" = LONG.

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 8:22am

Of course he doesn't call it cheating, I do..

FH and I have been arguing non stop over BM. He says I'm obsessed (I admit I'm VERY insecure over the fact that I don't trust her or him for that matter - not to be intimate physically but emotionally). ONE time he confided to her our problems (which were her) that betrayed my trust..and since than it's a constant argument.

major blowup over this now-don't know what to do.

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Thu, 06/04/2009 - 11:06am

So the whole issue with FH going into BM's house caused a major blowup..I really really regret moving out of my place..I had a beautiful 2 bedroom condo..and was so happy there, I got with FH and we moved into a 3 bedroom apt. because he had SS.

I sold ALL my furniture and have no $$ to move or buy anything. The only thing I have is a tv, and my daughter's new bedroom set.

opinions on pickup..stay outside or go in?

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Thu, 06/04/2009 - 9:59am

FH has to pickup/dropoff SS2 at BM's house. In the beginning..he would go in and wait in her living room until SS was ready. I told him there is no need for this, he should be ready before he gets there..if you call her to tell her you are on your way. So he agreed and supposedly started waiting outside at her front door. Even though he says "it's not that a big of a deal if I go in and wait".

Thank GOD I saw BM!!

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Thu, 06/04/2009 - 8:10am

So I'm on the way to my gym last night with SS6 to actually cancel my membership (it's too expensive, I never go and for $50.00 a year I can join the gym at work). So I'm driving about a block away and I see this these two girls walking..one of them had these TIGHT bright pink sweats on and her AZZ was HUGE and jiggly and dimpled and it was one of those ..all the traffic was staring and you KNOW everyon was thinking "WTF does that idiot have on and why would she walk out of the house like that?" LOL! So I'm laughing and like GROSS!

OT-but in total need of advice!!! friend drama

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Tue, 06/02/2009 - 9:12am

I've had a needy, clingy "toxic" friend for five years now. I met her thru my daughter..she is/was my daughter's best friend's mother. The two girls met in 3rd grade and became best friends..now they are in 7th grade and are in the same "social" circle..my daughter doesn't really care for her anymore..but they are cool with each other,etc..and still hang out once in a great while..or when my friend (the girls mom) would visit..the daughter would come too..

SS5 miserable pouty weekend (vent)

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 3:41pm

my SS5's pouty miserable weekend.

I finally stopped dealing with SS and his behavior issues. I call FH EVERYtime he acts up now..eventually I hope he'll get sick of my calls and start actually disciplining SS when he gets home. I told FH I can't deal with his behavior..it's getting worse..he's testing me and becoming a real brat - a few people mentioned his freshness over the weekend.

haha..my EH and his view on child support..lol

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 3:30pm

I get next to nothing a week in child support (let's just say enough to fill my gas tank - I drive an SUV). I used to get alot more but than he got laid off for a year..and he brought me to court..I was fine with that..I mean the guy wasn't working and has other kids..so they lowered it..lo and behold we find out two years later he was back to work for a year and kept it a secret so that I wouldn't go back to court. I never did even after I found out.

Need advice..about responsiblity and chores

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 9:58am

Here's the deal..I'm the only one in house who does the dishes..I clean up after everyone in the house..FH HATES dishes..so he basically NEVER does them. Anyways, FH also ALWAYS closes things very tight so they can't be opened, soda bottles,..etc..but he also closes SS2's bottles and sippy cups soo tight that I can never open them. So I leave SS2's bottles and cups for FH to wash. I don't think that is unreasonable. I clean up my dishes, BD's dishes, SS5's dishes and FH's dishes..is it too much to ask that he washes his SS2's bottles when he visits?

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