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FH isn't guilt parenting..he's just LAZY

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Tue, 06/16/2009 - 11:20am

That is the truth..it hit me last night. SS got in trouble at babysitter Friday..so as soon as I picked him up I brought him to FH's job. FH told him - straight to your room, no tv, no toys..we go home..SS goes to room..but than we left to meet FH for dinner..after dinner I had to pick up BD from her frien'ds house. I come home about 930pm..FH is outside with neighbor drinking a beer and SS is running around in yard playing! WTF! I should've handled it better..but I shot out of my mouth - WHY is he outside playing , he's on punishment????? Fh just blew it off.

saw BM face to face..

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Tue, 06/16/2009 - 9:26am

Friday night FH and decided to meet for dinner when he got out of work. So SS and I met him at the restaurant. I'm sitting in my truck waiting for FH to show up when I see BM and her friend walking by pushing the baby in the carriage..so I call FH and tell him BM is walking by you might want to just drive around block (to avoid confrontation or drama) but it was too late he was pulling in parking lot. BM hadn't seen me so I see her turn around and walk towards FH with all smiles and pointing saying "look it's daddy".

did he get hit by a METEOR?????

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Fri, 06/12/2009 - 2:25pm

Did someone replace my FH with the one I wanted???

First thing this am he sends me a text titled New Beginnings..and than just I love you.

Than he sends me an email telling me that (all of a sudden?) he sees that "BM is doing everything she can to cause drama and break us up and that will never happen and that he sent her an email stating that she needs to realize that he wants nothing to do with her except for their son and the games she is playing are immature and will NEVER break us up.

I'm trying to communicate so hard but I think I have to just leave

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Thu, 06/11/2009 - 1:38pm

So quick history..after weeks or constant arguing (over BM basically) last week I caught FH texting a girl trying to meet up with her that day for drinks. He told her via the text that he wanted to be her "second boyfriend" that song from Pleasure P for anyone that listens to that music.

The girl never responded..if she had who knows what would've happened.

He said he was wrong, he said that my constant arguing pushed him away..as I do not agree that I held a gun to his head..I DID agree that I argue TOO much..and agreed to start fresh with less arguing.

opinions wanted - disengaging will hurt SS?

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Thu, 06/11/2009 - 12:18pm

As most of you already know from previous blogs..I'm SM to my FH's son who is 6 whose mother abandoned him when he was 2. Now when FH was with BM of SS2 she watched SS5 while FH worked..once FH met me she told him she couldn't watch SS5 anymore..which I feel was abandonment again. When BM pulled this IM the one that found him a new daycare.

what do you guys think - flipping the script

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Wed, 06/10/2009 - 2:20pm

I posted this as a reply to another blog..and thought what a good idea it is.

BM's newest manipulative way to get FH away from me is calling at the last minute to take SS to daycare in the morning (she knows by 730 am but she calls FH at 845 - when she knows I'm not around)..to tell him SS needs a ride to daycare. OR making pickup/dropoff arrangements at different times (usually when I'm working).

WTF-what am I doing..I can't win..I'm a mess and at a loss

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Wed, 06/10/2009 - 10:53am

I don't know WHAT is going on..but something is eating at me..I don't know if it's women's intuition or my guts telling me but I don't like it..

I found out a little while ago that FH took SS to daycare this am. Usually BM drives to work with her mom and they drop off son at daycare. So Monday I found out that BM called FH to drop SS off because her mom didn't (she didn't go to work?)..he didn't but he had his mom do it..so than this morning my girlfriend tells me she saw FH driving with SS...so I ask him why he didn't tell me?

FH asked me how to punish SS..lol

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Wed, 06/10/2009 - 10:15am

SS6 does NOT listen to my BD13 when she babysits..she will tell him to stop doing something and he flat out looks at her and says "no"..FH has yelled at SS over this many times. BD is watching SS two days a week for extra $$ in the summer and SS HAS to start listening to her.

So last night I had an appt. and BD watched SS for about two hours..and it happened..he also walked by her and smacked her butt! LOL!

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