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Am I Crazy to think my husband spends more quality time with one daughter over another?

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Submitted by emilymarie on Thu, 06/14/2012 - 8:12pm

Maybe I am crazy but lately I have been feeling like my husband has been spending more time and giving more attention to my SD11 than our daughter (21 months)It's like he connects more with older kids and has more patience for that age or something. Or maybe I'm saying this because I'm about to pop any day with our 2nd baby together and I am irritable and not working, taking care of her all day by myself. I feed her all her meals, bathe her, clean the house, put her to bed, and he's just there being the fun dad to SD. Guess I just needed to vent...

A night of peace

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Submitted by emilymarie on Fri, 02/03/2012 - 6:09pm

So SD10 lives with us fulltime. Mom is 5 hours away w no visitation. SD is always with us...did I mention that?!? Never spends the night anywhere but home...has no interest in hanging out with friends. So she got invited to a sleepover tonight and DH said she was going. Meanwhile...there was crying and worrying and refusing to go. Well she went and I have to admit, it's quiet, I get to watch what I want on TV and I am enjoying myself. She'll be home at noon tomorrow...is it selfish and bad that I'm dreading noon tomorrow and should just concentrate on my alone time and enjoy it?

angry at dog

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Submitted by emilymarie on Mon, 11/28/2011 - 8:22pm

So tired of sd10yelling and whining and screaming at dog 24/7. We had to have this dog because sheeeee wanted him. Cried and cried bc he was so cute and we had to rescue him. Well 2 years later its worse than ever. If i have to hear "oliver get awayyyyyh i hate you" one more time im gonna scream. Tonite when asked why she does this she responds "well i just spent time w my mom and i forgot how annoying he was. " ugh.....

Just venting

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Submitted by emilymarie on Tue, 08/16/2011 - 5:44pm

Ok, posting this will in no way change the status of our household or what happens in the future, I'm just getting it out. My SD10 lives w us 24/7. Her mother has moved to 3 different states in the last year. I just feel like instead of getting closer to her, we are growing apart. It's awful...we barely speak and when we do, it's short and pissy. And when my husband is working and it's her and I, forget it...I don't understand why this is happening. I try talking to her and she just cries and acts like I'm putting her on the spot and can't stand to be confronted. We get no where.

Summer Fun

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Submitted by emilymarie on Mon, 07/25/2011 - 8:03pm

Ok, so SD10 lives w us full time. Mom lives across the country and sees her twice a year. I already have difficulties living w a child who is not mine. She is with us 24/7. Never spends the night at a friend's house or even grandmas bc she's too scared. Anyway, she was supposed to visit mom for the summer and my husband decided she wasn't going. I'm a teacher and have the summer off. This is so selfish of me but I was looking forward to working on projects around the house and hanging out with friends, going out to lunches, etc.

Loving your own children more than skid

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Submitted by emilymarie on Wed, 03/16/2011 - 7:35pm

I read a post earlier today about a woman who's pregnant and worried about loving her child more than her skid. I have a 6 month old baby girl and a SD9. I was worried about the exact same thing and sometimes I still catch myself trying to divide the attention equally. When I get home from work I just want to run to my baby scoop her up and kiss her while SD looks at me like "Oh you're home, that's nice." SD9 lives w us permanently. Mom doesn't see her at all and doesn't plan to except on Christmas. I am not SD's mother however I am the only mother figure in her life.

How do you talk about puberty with sd whose mom is not in the picture?

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Submitted by emilymarie on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 7:50pm

My SD is almost 10 and BM lives a plane ride away and never sees her. So I guess that leaves the whole puberty discussion up to me. And not knowing if she knows anything and what she knows, how do I approach it? She's very reserved and never even walks around the house in a towel. I'm so dreading this but don't think it's appropriate for her dad to approach the subject.

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