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I want the best for them, but I hate them at the same time. How can this be possible?

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Submitted by Blue stepmother on Sat, 10/22/2011 - 12:48pm

I have two step kids and have provided for them since even before dad and I married. I tried my best and even loved them at the time, but now I have withdrawn my involment, my financial support and my patience because nothing is going as I thought it should. The only hope is that their dad is taking a parenting course starting next Tuesday . I think he's way too soft on them, they treat him like crap, and he just keeps giving in to them. I keep waiting for it to get better, but it just gets worse. I can't wait till they move out....

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Sat, 10/22/2011 - 4:16pm

know what ya mean. I wonder how long my patience will last. luckily my oldest ss is now 18 but staying here b/c he's a senior. next one is almost 15! last week i told so that the dogs go with the boys. can't stand them. also luckily my so is very good about discipline and doing everything for his boys like cooking and cleaning most of the time. weekends i do a lot of baking and cleaning but only b/c my kids come over. someday it will get better - once they're gone! ha

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Submitted by Blue stepmother on Sun, 10/23/2011 - 8:38am

Ya, mine cooks too, but my problem is that he does a lot, but they sit on their asses and watch him. He seems to have missed the point that they are capable, have more energy and free time on their hands, and yet he continues to over function , while they under function ....drives me crazy, at least I've stepped back. I used to make up for them, not any more. I'm really holding out hope for this parenting course..I frankly thought he would never go, but now he has no choice. I told him if he didn't attend, I'd leave him.