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Submitted by SMto3 on Thu, 10/17/2024 - 6:20am

That is the question. This will be long. 

 

I don’t know what to think anymore. Last week Thursday, I complained to DH I didn’t feel he was giving me the attention I wanted as a woman. I know he’s struggling with the ED thing but it doesn’t always have to be about sex, we can cuddle, hang out, hug, whatever. 

He said he just needs a day where I’m not complaining about what he doesn’t do. 

 

Ss24 asks to move back in

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Submitted by SMto3 on Mon, 10/07/2024 - 12:53am

So last time I wrote, I mentioned that DH seemed to be backtracking and  was asking to have to his kids over to sleep over. Mind you ss24 has a gf, a 1 year old and one on the way. His gf has an apartment via way of her dad, and they live about an hour drive away. 

 

Well…I probably shouldn’t have done this but I snooped and saw that SS asked DH to move back in. More specifically he stated “me and gf were talking and want to move back in the house to create that close family dynamic”. 

 

My DH, the backtracker

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Submitted by SMto3 on Sat, 09/14/2024 - 5:32am

So stepgrandson had his first birthday party which we were invited to. Unfortunately they scheduled his party for early afternoon and time scheduled to end was 4pm, which would have meant DD9 wouldn’t be able to attend as she gets out of school at 3. I communicated this to SS24 who said “oh” but he didn’t change the time which was fine. 

Should I allow adult skid plus family to sleep over?

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Submitted by SMto3 on Sat, 08/03/2024 - 8:04am

The tenants I had in my home decided to leave for another state, so we moved back into our home. It's been okay, DH has been gone trucking again but he's here for the week. I'm having a belated birthday celebration for him today and invited SS24 and SS19. To recap for those of you who aren't familiar with my story, DH had custody of his first 2 kids from when they were about 5 and 10, and I came into the picture 2 years later. We didn't have the best relationship, and SS24 was forced out (by me as the driving factor) because he wouldn't save to leave and he didn't respect the house rules.

Baby #2, DH guilt and teens

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Submitted by SMto3 on Sun, 06/09/2024 - 12:13pm

SS24 has another baby on the way. Not sure how they will get out of public housing now. I'm sure those boxing dreams are dead and done. I encourage DH to see them when he has free time and the last time he went, he said that he had to have a good talk with SS24 about their living conditions. Per DH, they live in a horrible mess, and SS24 is blaming it on his BM's father (who owns the apartment and lives with them all). I reminded DH that SS was always very dirty and lived in filth (see prior blogs). It was one of the many things I found difficult to live with about him.

SS24 dreams of Boxing again

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Submitted by SMto3 on Fri, 04/19/2024 - 7:45pm

When SS24 was about 14, he developed an interest in boxing. I mentioned it in prior blogs. DH paid for his training and SS would go almost daily. He was good, but he wasn’t great. Had a couple of matches and then at 17/18 left the sport because he had a bad shoulder.According to one version of how he began smoking, SS says that someone at the boxing gym gave him some marijuana to help ease the pain of the shoulder injury. After he left boxing, he wanted to become a rapper/talent manager. 

over 4 dollars

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Submitted by SMto3 on Fri, 03/15/2024 - 11:31am

As it stands, we've been coexisting in our little studio for now. It's a little cramped since we didn't expect DH to get into a trucking accident so soon, but we're keeping busy.

Yesterday DH gets a call and being the place is so tiny, I could hear him speaking low. I went up to get something and to confirm if he was on the phone and he's there asking "how much is it for your card?" and then "okay, I'll send it now", then "Love you too". Won't make eye contact like a scared puppy. 

I wonder

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Submitted by SMto3 on Fri, 03/08/2024 - 9:36am

How it became normal to expect a person to take on someone's kids like their own and  not much else? For example, why don't people say, "oohh, he has a mom, you have love her like your own now" or "ooh he has siblings, you have to love them like your own"? 

And while we're at it, why doesn't anyone ever tell skids "ooh, dad has a new partner, you have to love her like your mom!"?

Feeling petty

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Submitted by SMto3 on Tue, 02/20/2024 - 8:00pm

We're out having dinner and DH talks about a new electronic stroller that's out now. He says he wishes he was working so he could buy his grandson (5 months old) the stroller. In my head I'm thinking that maybe he should want to start working so he can do things for me and DD9, and then I feel bad for thinking that. 

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