My closest sibing (in age and in general) died suddenly in his job of a heart attack on 7/8. This has affected me greatly, I was the first one at his side after he was pronounced dead and I have had to bear the brunt of the financial responsibility of burying him (I am the first and only one in my immediate family with a college degree). 

Last night I was curious about the location feature on the iPhone. SS16 had told me a couple of months ago that SS21 gave access to his gf so she always knew where he was (which is why when she showed up that day unannounced, she knew he was home). As I went through mine and H's phones trying to figure out how it works, I noticed that H had his location shared with only SS21. I know H didn't know about this feature so I'm certain that SS21 must have asked him for his phone one day and secretly put his location on so he could always know where H is (I'm assuming so he can do his dirt).

I’ve always struggled to feel like I’m not an outsider when SS16 and SS21 are together. Here’s is an example of that. SS16 nowadays will look for my affections, hug me in the mornings etc. Yesterday I was in the process of moving and I found that my bathroom spray was in his room. He then stated that it’s because every time I cook the house smells bad. 

Now this is not the first time he says that but I am starting to notice that he tends to act that way more when SS21 is around and his father isn’t. 

Last week I posted about SS20 having his girlfriend stay over without communicating. A little more to the backstory is that DH got SS a job at his job, and SS does the overnight shift 5 days a week. His 2 nights off are the 2 nights DH does the overnight which is how he’s been getting away with sneaking people in/having guys over to party etc. I can get how his schedule might be a little screwy and having someone over during the night may make sense. The issues have been that SS seems to be an all or nothing person, at everyone else’s expense.