Wishing DH would JUMP for me or at least hear me out!
I am so sick of looking forward to 6pm on Sundays so me an my boys can have some of my husbands undivided attention and then it doesn't come around. 6 pm on sundays is supposed to be my favroite time. SKIDS go home..Sure 6 pm got here. DH was supposed to take SS home at 6pm but BM was being a c-word about SS being sick that he should stay at our house an extra day to rest at our house. WTF since when does she care about her sick child getting rest. She just suggested that so we would say no and then cause a big ordeal about SS being unwanted. ITs not him that was unwanted it was the germs, and me taking care of a sick child that is supposed to be BM's responibility on Mondays. as far as I ma concerned Monday is her day in the custody arrangment so if her 15 year old child cant stay at home alone on Mondays then she or her husbadn can stay home with him. NOT me...Mondays are not my day to worry about the Skids, nor ar Tuesdays which is why I love Mondays or Tuesdays...Well my biggest reason for saying no is my 2 and 5 year old. I do not want them getting sick and it was a PIA trying to keep them away from SS hacking all over them...yeah he might have H1N1 so I'd really not risk any extra exposure to it fro myself for my boys because we all have asthma and the swine flu is supposed ot be more dangerous for small children. I am only trying to keep my 2 and 5 year old from getting it. ...So it was 7pm before DH, BM and SS all stopped fighting over me "not wanting SS here"...Then DH takes SS home. Not a minute goes by after he is in the door with after taking him home and done yelling at me...Sorry I do not want my kids hospitalized because they get what SS has and it reaks havoc on their asthma...And me yelling back at how DH must not give a damn about our kids health he' just concerned with keeping BM from bitching...I hate that because him keeping BM from bitching means he makse me bitch,,,and isn;t ahusband supposed to keep his current wife happy, not the ex wife?
Anyway not a minute after he's in the door and our bitching at each other is interrupted by the phone ringing...its DRAMA QUEEN MIL..whom I love to death but is also a PIA...MIL is diabetic and her blood sugar has dropped low and wont come back up and she is scared...So DH is now sitting over her house until her blood sugar raises. I was irritated by this, 1) the timing sucks. 2) I was really looking forward to some family time with DH and my boys 3) MIL does not take care of herself which is why she cant regulate her diabetes, so it gets old...4) I have had problems with my health recently and DH has not given a damn, I have migraines all the time now, its ok that my once controlled asthma is out of control and my once low BP is now high BP because of the stress in my life, I could very easily have a stroke becuase my medications, migraines and HIGH BP all cause strokes in women...SO too bad for me, no understanding from DH when I need a little extra help around the house so I can take it easy to keep my BP down so I dont have a flipping stroke that is just my tough luck...anyway I did not have a problem with him going to help hs mother, I would do the same. I just had a problem with how quickly he jumped for her no questions asked, how quickyl he was going to cave in to BM and let sick SS stay here against my wishes, really should I be forced to take care of SS when I had other plans just because I worj 3rd shift and they dont. I did not know my 3rd shift job was to convenince my husbands ex-wife...its not for thier convenience, nor is ti really for mine its the only option we can afford...So DH jumps for MIL, DH jumps for BM AKA EX-WIFE because she is the mother of his kids, but does not jump for me, I am also the mother of his kids but do not get the same respect or power over him. Not that I want to be controlling but if hes going to JUMP for any women I want it to be me....I don't even want to go into what my husband expects from me to get him to do anything for me...bitching, begging, threatining, sexual favors, you name it I can't just snap my fingers and get him to jump, I have to work for it. I AM SO SICK OF FEELING LIKE THE LAST WOMAN IN HIS LIFE, when I thought your spouse was supposed to make you feel like the first and sometimes only woman in his life.
I am done venting, I am going to go see what my BP is. Maybe someone should come with me until it goes down.( sarcasm) But it wont be my hubby , I'll have to call my sister, mom or dad to come over...
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I could swear i just wrote
I could swear i just wrote your blog. I am the last woman too. My opinion does not mean shit but of course when he has the kids i am expected to look after them.
When it is not custody for us why the hell should we drop everything to look after them. It is just tough tits i would have sent him home too. It is not your problem, BM get CS to look after "her" kids so why the hell should you have to?
I am in a similar situation right now and am livid, DH has swapped weekends yet again because BM is going away for the weekend, well guess what now i am too, he expected me to stay home (which i always do) and look after them while he worked. Why does BM get to go out and party when it is her weekend. She gets the CS and we get the kids, peachy situation for her fucked up situation for me. Now hubby is angry at me cos i said i am going out and you are on your own.
I am proud of you for sticking up for yourself!
Dont you just hate when they
Dont you just hate when they swap weekends? My husbdan just doesn't get it when I get mad, but I am like that is our time...for us and our boys...
It ruins all my plans and the only reason for it is the way my SS behaves. For the last ten years we have not benn able to get babysitters because SS makse fals accusations about people so often I was not going to do that to any one we know or dont know for that matter and hire a sitter. We couldn't go out unless we got MIL or BM to watch the kids, SS and SD were at MIL's SS would be an ass an we'd have to come pick him up, if we had BM "babysit" someone would get sick. We had not dating life, or adult social life. Now they are old enough to watch themselves and we still have issues because we have our own 2 and 5 year old, that SS is mean to so I will not leave them alone with him so we take our boys to grandparents houses while SKIDs have choice to stay at our house, go to BMs go to grandparents or go to friends house, no matter what they choose we get numurous phone calls because SS is fighting with SD or one of them needs a ride and cant find anyone else or one of them is sick...so even at 15 they still ruin date night.
I really hate when they swap weekends to do something with my side of our family. My family does not like thier manners and I get to be lectured from my 83 year old gradnmother about how I am not doing a very good job of teaching them manners, then I get to argue with my grandma about the fact that I do but because everyone else feels it is not my job all my efforts are wasted and they dont listen to me, it also bothers me that my Skids totally love my family and don't love me...my family kicks ass and the skids love the love and its so frustrating because I try to give them that kind of love and the attempts fail and I am rejected, it hurts that the skids dont want me around yet want to be around my family, dont they get that without me they would not have my family in thier lives...the other reason it bothers me is then DH gets to listen to BM bitch about how we do so much with my family and not so much with DH's family, well my in laws suck at planning family functions and suck at getting along so even DH prefers my family more...BM feels they should be with biological family more...well then she should not have cheated got divorced, remarried herslef and the kids should not go to her husbands family things either...shes such a one-sided two faced bitch with double standards...but it gets DH down because she's bitching and its yet another reminder of how crappy his family is.
It is frustrating i know,
It is frustrating i know, the kids play up and it is a reflection on us, i try to step away from those thoughts and remind myself that in the long run they are not my kids and their behaviour is the BM and BF problem, stuff it i have my own kids to worry about. As long as they are good and polite then i dont give a shit.
Step mothers are always the hated ones regardless of how much you do or how hard you try, it really does feel pointless.
Youre absolutely
Youre absolutely right....SM's are not responsible for sick skids. I have an agreement with my DH that if skids are sick they dont come over. It is the responsiblity of BM to take care of her own kids!