So DH has been treating me crappy and finally he announced that it was my fault that SD(12) no longer wants to come. I did finally get a backbone and tell her that in my house I was the boss, not her. So, I suppose that I am partly responsible for her not coming. I also hung up on her mom and told her that we're not taking phone calls from her anymore until she can be civil. In my defense I had to do this as I was sick and having migraines 2-3 times per week just dealing with the bs from SD and BM.
BM has told DH in front of me and also in emails that he has to choose either his "bitch whore wife" or his daughter. I believe her PAS is responsible, not me who simply chose to stand up for myself.
We have a counselling appointment on Friday but right now I'm thinking we're probably done. I will not be able to stay with a spineless, ball less, pussy of a man that can't stand up for his wife or treat her how she deserves to be treated. He turns into jelly as soon as BM or SD open their mouths. I won't be 2nd, that is not what I agreed to when we got married. I have lost respect for him and I'm not sure if it is possible to get it back.