No! Tell DH no! I had the EXACT same thing happen with DH. Years ago, BM broke up with her bf, and wasn't playing an active roll in her life. The boys would always ask if their little sister could come over. I told DH flat out that I knew he had two kids when I got with him, but not three! I'm not bm's baby sitter!!! We took the little girl ONCE, for thanksgiving cause BM was trying to pawn her off so she could go party. I felt sorry for her and had her sleep over with the boys. She was a good girl, I even had fun. But after that, BM kept trying to pawn her off on us. I told DH that was the one and ONLY time. I get that they're 1/2 siblings,but that's bm's bed she made, not mine! They can spend time together on her time.

ETA: I forgot that there was 2 of them in your scenario... tell DH, HELL no!!!

We have 2 skid half-siblings also...one older (about to graduate HS, was in the home when DH and BM were married) and one younger (the trap she made for husband the current). Older child sometimes helps out by taking the skids places, picking them up, etc. DH gives her birthday and Christmas presents because he was more of a father figure to her than her own father for quite a few years. Younger child is not even school age yet. He has been to our house once, with BMs step-mother, for a birthday party for one of the skids. I don't mind the halfs showing up for things like birthday parties, but BM isn't invited, and no way in hades will the little one be staying in my home without his responsible adult with him (can only imagine how awful BM would be if he got hurt on my watch).

Treat them exactly like you would a neighbor's kids. They may only come over when INVITED.

If they ask for money inform them that it is rude to ask people for money. If they need money they are to go ask their PARENTS. As for rummaging in the house and helping themselves to things - again treat them like you would a neighbor kid doing that. Stop it and threaten to send them home if they do not behave. No don't threaten - do send them home.

Stop this nonsense NOW. It is ridiculous for you to be a doormat to random children. These are NOT your children nor are they your husband's children. You have no obligation to them at all other than to ensure their personal safety while in your home.

Umm. No. Why is this even an issu? Let DH know that they are not his or your spawn and they are not your problem. Now, an occassional invite to a party or something is one thing but subsidizing BM's random breeding practices is a completely different story.

My SS-23 (now adopted) is an only child in our home and family and the eldest of 4 all out of wedlock SpermIdiot spawned half sibs by three different baby mamas in the Sperm Clan. For the 16+ years of the CO we would get the occassional sad begging for help from the SpermIdiot and SpermGrandHag because they could not afford the SpermIdiot's breeding practices. Nope, not happenin. We let them know consistently that we would protect our son's best interests including insuring that he had access to the maximum amount possible of the meager Sperm Clan resources.

"Keep your Johnson in your jeans you characterless idiot and you wouldn't have this problem." was our mantra when they would play the sympathy card. Of course in your Skid's BM's case the mantra would be slightly different. "Keep your labia in your leotard you characterless idiot and you wouldn't have this problem."

Once my son aged out from under the CO the Sperm Clan shifted their whining to him. They have periodically tried to guilt him into sending money to help support his three younger Sperm Idiot spawned half sibs. Nope, the kid has stones and has no problem keeping the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool under control.

It breaks my heart to see how much their crap hurts him and how bad he feels that his younger sibs are stuck with no counter to the toxic gene pool they reside in but he does not succumb to their crap.

It also breaks my heart to hear about the trials and tribulations of the half sister and two half brothers. They will not have the life that my son will have because they have not had the example of a commited loving marriage, focus on higher education, and professional careers that my kid has had.

But... the fact remains. Not my spawn, not my bride's spawn, not our problem. Your DH needs to learn this lesson and realize that he cannot accept or agree to his child's half sibs coming to your home without prior agreement from you. Period! End of discussion.

IMHO of course.

Good luck.

My ss20 is almost nine years older than his little sister. She was in my house one time when ss20 was giving her a ride and she had to wait here for Bm to pick her up. She watched tv and we chit chatted a bit. The end. I did not have her over for anything else.

I did used to take ss20 shopping for bday and Christmas gifts/cards for his sister until
He got part time jobs and had his own money.