I'm new to the site and it has been a big help to know I'm not alone in all this. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He has a 5 year old daughter and we get her for Christmas and summer break because she lives in another state. She is not a bad kid and we get along pretty well. I'm not used to having a kid around and I really don't get to spend regular time with her other than a few months a year. Some days are just so hard for me as I'd imagine with anyone who has kids and still works full time. And when I need to step away and have some time to myself my boyfriend makes me feel like I don't care and gets mad. I feel like that he doesn't understand how much of an adjustment it is for me to have her around but he says that I'm just complaining. I'm not trying to push my relationship with her and just taking the role as friend/playmate. I do care about her but I don't love her like she's my own and at times I feel guilty and judged that I don't get "mommy feelings" when I feel I should. I just don't know how to talk to him about my feelings without him getting offended or feel like I don't love his little girl. We have a great relationship otherwise and I feel like we need to tackle this now or it will ruin us.