I have read so much about this but seem to not find a fulfilling answer. My significant other has two older teenagers (17 and almost 15). We moved in together and I ignored all the "gut feelings" of something feeling off. The boys are stand off in nature and I was thankful one decided to stay with DAD since he's closer to friends and school with him. The other one is becoming a nightmare. Maybe not a nightmare but someone who provokes me to lash out. He plays little games that I can't seem to disengage from. He always says hi to everyone but me and thanks only mom for dinners. He's a smart kid and I'm certain he knows the effect it has. I can't seem to ignore the behaviour or he becomes more bold. I know he's a kid ans close to moving on in life but it's getting to the point of me not wanting to even be in my home anymore. It's causing fights and tension. I don't know of ways to not feel this agitation I do when I even just  see him now. I've read every blog I can find and many resources to find coping mechanisms. I need to clear my head and find ways to stay clam ans not react. It's getting tiresome and I'm beginning  to feel territorial around the house like I want to chase him to his room even when he's just hanging around.

ahyone else reached this point and found ways to mitigate these feelings and move forward?

thanks guys