Well, things were great when the kid was gone all summer. Then, he came back. This past weekend, we took a family trip for the weekend to the beach, and we also talked about wedding plans and getting some research done. WELL, kid-13-wasn't happy about it, and threw a fit often. I do admit, I played into it a little by allowing my emotions to surface. Well, tonight the kid pulled the "she goes or I go" crap, and now my-I really don't know what to call him anymore-is frustrated and I am getting the short end of the stick here.

I have no clue whats going on....I know that he (the whatever you want to call him right now) can't start paying child support again because it will be a hell of a lot more than it was before he brought that 13 yr old asshole kid of his out here. He-the whatever you want to call him now-says he loves me, and doesn't want me to go. Yet, I am hearing shit like 'well, we gotta give her til her semester is over so she can find a place', and 'maybe our daughter can move out here sooner so she can help you and you two move in together', and 'I don't want to have it like this but I am stuck', and 'yes I do love you a lot'.

I think I have him agreeing to at least give a few weeks to simmer and see if we can get stuff flipped. At least he says it....meaning it is two different things. I want to try to get this turned around, and I don't know if I can get it done. I don't know if what I plan to do is something that will help. I do know counseling is out of the question cause neither one will budge on that. The ONLY thing I can think to do is to stay clear of the 13 yr old asshole, try not to speak to him much, and keep things as cool as possible. I also have told my whatever-you-want-to call-him-right-now that he needs to let that 13 yr old asshole know how HE feels about ME, and that we still need to do our things and be affectionate to each other so his 13 yr old asshole can see that this IS hurting his dad. I just don't know....I do know I can't handle this...advice?